Are you ready to manifest your dream business? In today’s episode, I’m sharing one of my best manifesting stories: how I manifested my soon-to-be husband! Plus, for each personal request that I had for my dream husband, I’ll be sharing a way to tie the wish towards your dream business!

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Why I Created Lucky 13 (The Heart Behind It) (2:22)

What Lucky 13 Is (And What It Isn’t) (7:09)

Why I Shifted From Monthly To Quarterly (11:07)

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The Content You Walk Away With (13:59)

Why Is It Called Lucky 13? (15:55)

What To Expect From Your Lucky 13 Day (19:14)

Your Business Deserves To Be Seen (25:51)

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Have you ever heard the story about how faith? My German Shepherd puppy helped me meet Mike, my best friend and I went to a psychic, and we’ve seen this sweet lady before a couple times. She’s shared messages through the other side to talk to my dad and the messages that she’s shared about Daddy, like, there’s no way, I have never posted any of this stuff on Facebook.

I’ve never even said some of these things out loud. I even had to reference some things to my mom and my aunt, and I’ve shared stories about things she said, and she’s like, oh yeah, both of them are like, oh yeah, that’s Roger, like, that’s your dad. I just, it made me a believer. Right. This psychic has even talked to me about having twins one day, and I’ve always left her readings feeling all of the emotions in believing she’s legit, but also hopeful that I get to make choices and co-create with God.

Things change and like many psychics will say, I’m getting this reading for the path you’re currently on. You may have a sudden career change, need to move or simply make different choices to lead you to a new path. I always sort of thought that was their cop out in case things never came true. Well, a couple years ago in 2022, Sarah, my best friend since the third grade, and I went to see this psychic again.

At this point, I had been single for over five years working on my business, survived the pandemic and was still photographing weddings, families branding, and bir shoots, and building my education side of the business, pitching myself to speak, launching my podcast, and creating my online shop, the Greenhouse.

While I was juggling all of this, I was also really, really eager to meet my person. I didn’t wanna ask questions about my future husband and my future life. I wanted to ask what I could do to meet him. Why did it feel like I had to choose either successfully running a business or falling in love? I felt discouraged with feeling like it had to be one or the other.

And this has been going on for for years, right? Even in past relationships, I felt that when things were going really well in my relationship, my business kind of slowed down. Or when business was reving up and I was busy and booked and traveling and reaching all these milestones that I prayed for, I was single.

Like, I was just like, what’s going on and why can I not blend these two together? For the last five to six years, I was single as a Pringle, hustling weddings, booking photo gigs, traveling and speaking on stages for conferences and events around the country. Yes, I was out and about and meeting people, but I was very much in my creative, very female driven bubble.

I used to joke that I should go to videographer conventions and workshops to potentially meet my husband. Right? Like I literally was even dreaming up, like, how cool would it be to meet a videographer and we could have a photo and video team and we could just travel the world. Like I had this all in my head.

Okay. I was so concerned with finding my man that I was up for any way to put myself out there. Every wedding I dreamed about having the best man or a groomsman ask me to dance and like a fairytale, I had this all imagined in my head with expectations crushed after almost every wedding. I used to joke with my brides and I would tell them, if you help introduce me to my husband, I’ll let you guys join me on our honeymoon.

All expenses paid for a second honeymoon for you guys. I’ll even cover your flights and your hotel wherever we’re headed. Like I literally imagined doing a giveaway to be like, okay, couples, put your like matchmaker, cupid, you know, wings on and help me find my man, and if it’s a match made in heaven, I will literally pay to take you on a second honeymoon.

Like that’s how desperate I was. Like I was just so wanting to find my person. I know it sounds really sad, but this is literally my life, right? I was so desperate to find true love that it was really crushing my self-esteem and questioning my value all at the same time. Back to Brenda, okay, this psychic, we go to meet Brenda and I ask her, okay, what’s wrong with me?

I feel like I’m a good catch. I have so much to offer. I so badly want to find my partner in life, start a family, and build our legacy together. I don’t wanna meet my successful husband and completely stop working, and I don’t have that mentality like a lot of influencers and big business girls have today of retiring their husbands.

I want to build something together. My strengths doubled up with his strengths to really make something we’re proud of and can pass down to our kids and grandkids. I have a skillset with photography that can take me anywhere around the world. Literally, I was ready for anything. What I love about this particular psychic is that she blends messages from spirit and her own wisdom and experiences.

Sometimes after Sarah and I debrief our readings, we laugh and wonder, okay, do you think she got those messages from Spirit or is she just sharing her own stories and her own grandmotherly wisdom, right? I think I just made that word up, but you know what I mean, right? Like is she just sharing her own life experiences and stories?

Either way, she shares sweet, caring and warm stories that help us translate whatever she’s downloading and receiving in the midst of my questions and concerns to help meet my man, Brenda simply states, it’s time for you to get a dog. I was like, what? Like we were like in the, this like heated conversation.

We were all emotional, and I was pouring my guts and my life story, you know, on her little desk right in front of us full of crystals and cards, all the things, right, and she said, it’s time to get a dog. What I was not expecting, that she went on to share that. Currently, I’m blinding these guys with my aura when I first meet them.

I’m too available, too eager and too forward to make them even want to pursue me. I was quite literally sharing my life story and trying to prove why I was worthy of being their wife. Instead of vetting these guys to see if they were even worthy to be on my calendar for another date, let alone my future, everything she told me, you are a waterfall right now.

Flooding these guys with your big dreams, future goals, wild ideas, and plans for what you want out of life. Yes, of course you are worthy of all of those things, but guys by nature wanna build that for you too. They wanna build it together. They wanna provide and share visions, but you’re drenching and drowning them too fast.

Healthy, strong and safe. Masculine men wanna provide and help build a life with their partner, with your big visions and goals. How are they supposed to fit in? I was clearly in my masculine energy trying to attract a masculine man. Of course, I was a magnet for these sissy guys, right? These passive princess energy boys that were on the opposite spectrum of my energy.

I needed to make a change. This is where Siri and I clearly wondered if this was spirit or Brenda’s own life lessons to share. I didn’t care. I was soaking it all up, and because she was so spot on, I was listening, right? Every single thing she was saying, I was just like taking notes and I was just like, yes, okay.

This is all making sense. I don’t think I needed a psychic to share these reflections, but at this chapter in my life, it’s exactly what I needed to hear. She told me, try being more like a water spigot that drips your goodness. She told me it’s not about playing games. I’m not asking you to play hard to get, but you gotta slow your role and let the guy peak his interest and pursue you.

Let him learn enough about you, the real you before you flood him with his future life plan that he can just jump into like a pawn in your own game of life, right? Like it sounds crazy, but it’s literally what I was doing. I needed this reflection. This is where she mentioned the puppy again. Brenda went on to tell me that I have so much love to give and so much of my heart to share with my person, with my future husband, that I need to direct that unconditional love to a dog.

She encouraged me to adopt a dog or bring a puppy home. This dog will help give you the attention you need and direct your energy to their needs. If you’re out on a date, don’t linger and oversay you’re welcome. Jet out and let ’em know that you have to get home to feed your dog. She encouraged me to invest my time, energy, and thoughts into this new sweet puppy and let that chasing energy of trying to find my husband, flip it to make him chase me.

We left that reading feeling hopeful, but also like, oh my gosh. Holy smokes. We gotta tell Ma. At that time, my mom and I were living together in our new build home in Arizona. I was planning on moving out to Arizona. Anyway, this was a couple years ago, and my mom thought I would never leave my hometown.

She was convinced that I just had this wild pipe dream and was just thinking of expanding to Arizona and maybe would just stay with my best friend for a little while. She didn’t think I was actually gonna move here. As I got closer to speaking with agents and understanding the numbers for loans and Right, ’cause it’s tricky because as an entrepreneur on paper, it’s always difficult to secure a loan.

Then the fact that I was moving out of state, I had to prove that I would still be traveling back home to the Bay Area for my weddings and for income. Like it was just, it was a big process, right? But as we got closer, my mom realized, oh, okay, you’re actually moving. So she jumped on the bandwagon and we ended up investing together in our first home here in Arizona.

My mom really isn’t a big dog person. She was raised with outside barn dogs, and when we had dogs growing up, there were never allowed in the house. I know that sounds crazy right Now, granted, we live in California. It was great weather. The dogs could go in the garage. They weren’t like. These, what is her name?

The Sarah McLaughlin, um, song, you know, type of animals that needed help, right? Like, we took care of our dogs, they were fed, they were loved, but they just were never inside the house. So asking my mom if we could get this dog kind of felt kind of scary. Like we’ve talked about it before, but it’s something that, you know, we had to discuss, right?

And it’s hard to imagine dog people like that when dogs are in coffee shops at Trader Joe’s and walk around everywhere with their owners today, right? Like just having an outside dog sounds like child abuse to a dog, right? Like, that’s just so insane, right? So we told mom about Brenda and what she said during the reading and my mom said, okay.

Like she literally thought it was a great idea. Now, at the time, we were planning my brother’s wedding that June, and I knew that I didn’t wanna bring a puppy home until after that my brother was getting married in Monterey, California. So we would be doing a lot of travel and I wanted to wait. That’s also a huge reason why I haven’t gotten dog up until this point because of all the travel for weddings.

It just wouldn’t be fair to my puppy for me to be gone all the time. Plus, not to mention the expense of puppy sitters, right? Like it’s crazy, and the thought of needing to hire out someone to wash my dog every time I got on an airplane or was gone for 8, 10, 12 hour days, that would just be insane, and it just wasn’t the time or the season of my life to have a dog.

As my brother, Mike’s wedding was getting closer and closer, Sarah, my best friend that was with me during the reading, she reminded me, okay, let’s go look for her. She’s gonna need about eight weeks with her mama after birth. So she may already be born. Let’s go find her. Let’s go find your baby. Right. So the search began for my dream German Shepherd.

I was raised with German Shepherds. My grandparents raised them. My auntie had one and tons of my extended family also had them. If I was gonna get a dog, my heart was set on a German Shepherd that I could name. Faith I knew in my heart. I loved the name Faith so much that I knew it was either going to be my first born daughter’s name or my first dog’s name.

Whatever came first. Well, clearly we know the dog came first. Right after some intensive searching, we found her. We found the litter. That would be perfect timing, and I’m so grateful we got to visit and pick her out. Actually, she picked me and I was smitten. I was surprised that a couple of the places only allowed like some of these like breeders or some of these locations, they only allowed.

The dogs to like be selected through photos, which I thought was insane. They were like, oh, here’s your pictures. Pick your dog, send your deposit on this date. You can come get, get the puppy. And I’m just like, no. Like, I don’t know, like I was expecting, just like how I have this romanticized vision of meeting my husband, I was thinking, no way.

Like I am not gonna pick my dog through a picture, right? Like, I want to hold her. I wanna see her temperament, I want to see her, you know, playing with the other puppies. I just, I wanted to see it and feel it, and know that it was like a match made in heaven. Right. The rest is history. Faith was born on May 1st in 2022, and I got to take her home the end of June, the weekend after my brother’s wedding.

July 1st. I met Mike and we officially had our first date on the 4th of July. The rest is history with Mike and I, right? He had his dog, Skye, his niece Amelia named her after one of the Paw Patrol pups and our two girls together look like sisters. It’s literally insane how much they look alike. Sky does have a little bit of Belgium Malinois in her, and Faith is pretty much a full blown, she doesn’t have papers or anything, but she’s a full blown German Shepherd and they just look a like, like they, they’re, they’re both German Shepherds, like they both have that in them, and you can tell.

I could not be even more happier that Brenda had suggested me bringing home this dog. Right. I followed exactly what she said when we hung out. I had to bounce to feed faith if we spent time on the river or on any adventures outdoors. I told Mike, sorry, gotta cut it short to be with faith, right?

Eventually, Mike asked if I could just bring faith to his house so I can stay longer and not have to leave. I swear. Faith played a huge part in meeting Mike and my mentality for dating completely shifted. I wasn’t playing games, I was just living my own fricking life, right? I had other responsibilities, and literally Mike needed to pursue me without drowning him in my energy and my big ideas.

So I guess if you’re looking for love, try getting a dog. Okay, cutie. For today’s personal episode, we’re getting closer and closer to our wedding, and I wanna share some manifesting I did for my future husband. And I also wanna tie that into manifesting for your future dream job or your future business.

I’m a firm believer in feeling, seeing, dreaming, and letting those opportunities come to you only after you’ve taken action. We’re here to plant seeds and then let the wind blow and let nature run its course. While I was cleaning and packing up my room at Moz, getting ready to move into our little fixer wrap, I came across a list for my dream man.

It was written on the back of one of my birthday cards, and I was shocked to find that Mike hits every single one of those check boxes. I forgot to mention that before leaving Brenda’s reading, she reminded me to script and write out every little thing I’m looking for in my husband. Not the superficial things like his height, his bank account, or trust funds, right?

Yes. Can we get an amen into that? Right. But more about how we’re compatible his interest, and most importantly, how he’ll make me feel. Brenda explained that your birthday is a powerful portal. It’s a powerful time to write out your wishes and prayers for the next year. Visualize and dream up exactly what you’re looking for.

It kind of reminded me of practical magic when Little Sally Owens, the Sandra Bullock character, right when she was little, she wrote down her dream husband, even down to flipping star shaped pancakes and having one blue eye and one green eye. Sounds impossible, right? But you gotta watch the movie. Um, but literally she would like write down every detail.

Brenda also made sure to make it crystal clear that my future husband is single, emotionally available and is looking for me too. There’s no sense in making this perfect list to miss that part and realize he has a whole family, he’s hiding, or someone else thinks they’re in a relationship with him, right?

So we gotta make that clear, make sure he’s available. And also looking for what you are looking for. As I share this list with you, I’m gonna pair it with a phrase. Or a script speaking directly to your dream client. Maybe you’re in the same boat I was in, eager to find love, or maybe you’re happy with your relationship status and I am so freaking happy for you.

Right? If you are calling in your dream clients, right? So maybe you have an incredible business that you’re proud of, maybe you’re experiencing a pivot. Maybe you’re experiencing expansion and you are calling in and the next level of claims, right? It may even be a blend of both. And I’m here for it with each personal request for my dream husband.

And I’m actually gonna post this. I’m gonna post in the show notes and in, um, the blog post, I’m gonna share this handwritten list of all of the things like this, like wishlist for my dream husband, right? All of my hopes, my dreams. Then what we’re gonna do is we’re gonna pair each one of those phrases with a dream client request, right?

Like a script or a wish, a manifestation that I’m trying to call in for them, right? Let’s create a roadmap together to bring in exactly what we desire for this next era. Grab your notebook and jot down your own bullet point notes for reference, or you’re welcome to check out the blog or the show notes that pair with this episode.

The show notes are right here in the podcast player you’re listening to, or head to keana marie.com and check out the blog to search this episode and scroll to feel inspired to make your own. Let’s break down exactly what I wrote to call in my future husband into my life, and we’re gonna be calling in our dream clients at the same time.

So I did not number these. I just have a huge, like bullet point. They’re all little tiny stars of lists, so I’m not gonna number them. So I hope you don’t get lost. Um, with this long list, it may just turn into just like a big blob of notes, and that’s totally fine. But let’s start at the beginning. He must be happy.

The wake up happy smile all the time. With a grateful heart. This was so important to me. I wanted to find someone that mirrored my energy and mirrored the type of person that I am. Like, I literally just wake up happy. Now I’m not talking about wake up happy and start chatting and, you know, rainbows and glitter and, you know, farting happiness, like all that kind of stuff.

But I was not looking for someone that was grumpy and irritated all the time, right? I want someone to wake up, maybe have a slow morning, have a cup of coffee, but genuinely wakes up happy. So this is my little, my little script or my little man manifestation for Mike. I would love to flip that. And now we’re gonna kind of take the conversation to finding that ideal client.

Okay, so when I say I’m looking for happy clients, I am a hundred percent devoted to calling in happy, joyful people, right? I want people that know that when they wake up in the morning, that they have the opportunity to change their life. We’re all just one conversation, one connection away. But at the end of the day, we have to choose happiness, right?

Working with people that bring me joy is so important, and that is a hundred percent going on my list to find a dream client. The next one. Family oriented, but excited to start his own family. So this was really important to me when I was dating because I wanted someone that had a background in knowing how important family was, valuing traditions, valuing just loyalty and, and commitment to family, right?

Being there for each other. I wanted that in a man. And I, I also, this is why I wanted to put that little comma in there, right? So not only does he love and respect his family, his, you know, his siblings, his parents, his grandparents, cousins, all that, but the fact that he’s excited to start his own family, I am looking for my dream husband.

I am looking for like the dream father of my children. I am not just looking for a hot man to be his wife, right? I wanted a family oriented man, and that’s exactly who Mike is. I know that he is proud of his family, he loves his family deeply, and we’re both very excited to hopefully God willing, bring children into our our lives and start our own family.

And through his actions, I know he is that person. I’m gonna relate this to my dream client. Okay, so let’s flip it. I would say that my dream client is also family oriented. Now, this does not mean that they have to have children. What I mean by this is that they value family, they value traditions. I know that if I for any reason had to reschedule a Zoom call or potentially with advanced notice, change any type of details about a photo shoot, because my future kids are sick, I want my dream clients to know.

That they have that flexibility as well. I see it. They see it. We have an understanding that work is important, but it is not the most important work that we’re doing. Right. It does come to our families and like I said, this does not single out anyone that does not have children. It is bringing our parents into the picture.

It’s even having a heart for our pets. Right. If any of my clients are going through a loss of any kind, I want them to know that I love them and support them and we can take care of work when it’s appropriate. Right. So that’s how we’re gonna flip it about our dream client. Okay. The next one. He loves my family and my chaos as much as I do.

This is really, really important to me. This is where the whole family oriented thing comes, like the previous, um, script comes from because I have dated guys in the past that didn’t give a shit about my family. Like they had no interest in going to baseball games with my family. They had no interest in going to our Sunday suppers or Friday night pizza nights.

They just were busy. They, or they would rather just stay home. And I get it. I understand that people have their own lives. They’re tired. They, you know, having an additional social life on top of your relationship and your work and crazy schedules. I get it. Like that’s a lot. The fact that it was, it felt like pulling teeth to get the, like my old boyfriends to come to Christmas Eve or to be excited to go to Tahoe for 4th of July or whatever it may be.

Like it just was an issue and that is something that I did not want to have. I was praying for a man. That actually wanted to come to family events with me and not be grumpy about it. Right. I wanted them to show up, I wanted them to be helpful. I wanted them to move tables and chairs, pop up, pop-up tents, help future nieces and nephews, you know, carry their snacks.

Like whatever that was like. I envision that. And that is exactly the type of man that Mike is. He fits right in with my family. Maybe even a little bit too comfortable now because he is ripping on me. We’re joking and you know, he, the jokes are there. He feels very comfortable to be himself, which I absolutely admire and I’m so grateful for.

He wants to be a part of my family. In fact, we are gonna be starting annual camping trips coming up soon. Um, we’ve done that with his family in the past. We will absolutely continue those and I’m hoping that we can blend our families in the future. But we are absolutely prioritizing family camping trips with my side as well.

Right. And that’s something that Mike is taking the initiative to do. I pray for. So same thing, we’re gonna flip this and talk to our dream client. Okay? So let me read it again. So, he loves my family and my chaos as much as I do, right? So let’s take that instead of replacing family, and let’s take that and replace that to business, right?

My dream client loves my business and my chaos as much as I do. So when I say it that way, what I’m referencing for my future dream clients is they see my heart, they see that I have my hands in a lot of things, right? I have the podcast, I have my coaching business, I have my online offers. I am booking photo shoots, and I am also working on our fixer upper.

And I, um, spend a lot of time with the family, right? Like I want them to know that even though that I have my hands in a lot of things, that whatever it is that they’re looking for, if it’s specifically in a handful of those items, like I got it. Like I am the best option for them and they want to be a part of it.

They wanna be a part of the journey. And they either want to run with me beside me, um, they want me to help them pull them up, right? To get to that next level of business. Whatever that looks like, that’s the type of client that I’m calling in, right? So I challenge you. What does that look like for you, right?

So make that as personal as you want. Make it as vague business wise as you can, but definitely start scripting how that can relate to you and your business. The next one is. He must be driven and ambitious. Okay, this one is so important to me because I am a hustler. I’m a dreamer, I’m an action taker. I get shit done.

I have really big goals. I have really big plans. I want someone that takes initiative, right? I want a man that has big dreams and goals, and I get it. They may not be at that career that they want like end goals with, right? Or they may not be financially, uh, ready to retire anytime soon, even though that’s like the dream, right?

But really, I want someone that is driven and ambitious. And this also goes easy flip to my dream clients, right? I am looking for people that are driven, that are ambitious, that know their value, that are working towards their big goals, that are taking leaps of faith. That was a perfect match. Like that was a perfect flip for dream man versus dream client.

The next one. He loves his career and going to work every day. These are kind of piggyback notes on this, but I wanted to make sure that I mentioned that specifically. Remember Brenda said, the psychic said that we have to be as specific as possible. So what’s important to me, when I flip that and I talk about my, my dream clients is they love their career.

They are proud of the business that they are creating, and that is so important to me, right? They love going to work every day. They love challenging themselves. They know that they are in alignment with the things that they’re really good at, and the ability to actually make profits and to make an impact and to grow, right?

All of that is so important to me. The next one, I would love my man to love travel, and go on spontaneous adventures. So this is something that’s really important to Mike and I. Mike loves road trips. We love national parks. We love the great outdoors. Anytime that we can go on hikes and explore, we love finding water.

We are known for packing a cooler packing, drinks and sandwiches and just hitting the road, even just day trips, right. And this is stuff that we’re doing already, let alone, um, what I just so excited for in the future, right? We love to camp, we love to spend time with family, all of that, right? And this is something that’s also really important to me and my dream clients.

I want to be with expansive people. I want them surrounded by me, right? I want them to share their travel experiences, give me tips and pointers on where to go, what to do, what to see, and then just ultimately have that expansive brain to know that like there’s such a beautiful world out there and we have so much to learn.

So let’s do that together. The next one is he must love country music and likes to dance. Okay, so this is totally a personal thing, and I will tell you that I have dated guys in the past that weren’t a fan of country music or they were friends with guys that didn’t like country music. And I get it, it’s totally a preference, but like that would never work for me.

Like country music for me personally, is the soundtrack of my childhood. It is the heartbeat of my soul. I just, I love country music. It’s homey, it’s safe, it’s comfy, and I just love it. Like it’s, it’s just me, right? And I wanted to find that in my person too. I wanted him to love country music, the lifestyle of cringey music, and.

You know, living off the land, all of like the history of that is just so important to me. And then as well as loving to dance Teal. So I’ll tell you this though, Mike is not a dancer. Like he will slow dance with me. He is pulled up his square body before, turned on the headlights and put on the radio for us to dance to some slow songs too.

And it just totally melts my heart. And that is something he will do for me because he loves me. But that’s definitely not like his favorite thing to do. I am the dancer. I am like the kitchen dancer. I am the, you know, Costco twirler, walking down the aisles and dancing, all that kind of stuff, right? Like, that’s just me.

I love to move and um, I could not imagine being with somebody that didn’t like country music. Old, you know, classic rock, just kind of like the music that I was raised on, right? So once again, like I said, we’re getting very specific here. So this is something that I will share was important to me when I started sharing more of my interest in country music.

Back when I was in the thick of weddings, I remember walking into getting ready rooms and the brides would be playing their country music morning playlist and straight up tell me, oh my gosh, key. You’re gonna love this playlist. Right? And they were joyful and they loved it. And it was a perfect match, right?

Like once you start sharing more about yourself and your desires and the things that bring you joy your life, you’re going to be a magnet for others that feel that way too, right? You’re gonna repel ’em. And that’s totally. That’s totally okay. And actually that’s encouraged, but for the most part, you’re gonna attract people that have the same interest as you.

And that also comes with clients, right? So maybe your, your list for your dream client isn’t finding someone that loves country music. That may not even matter to you, right? But I do encourage you to actually put a song genre to that, right? Like, what type of music do they like? What type of vibes do they like?

What type of energy makes them come alive and feel comfortable and, and just safe in their own skin, right? So definitely write that for your dream client. I’m writing that they like country music because that’s important to me, right? So find that for you. Okay. The next one that I have for Mike was, knows how to pick up the check and is really generous.

This is something that was really important to me because growing up I vividly remember my dad, my uncle, my, you know, poppy, my grandparents, whatever, like, I remember them like fighting over the check. Like it was a big deal to like, they didn’t split the, like, nobody in my family knew how to split checks.

Like we never did that. It was just, we just threw down and just took care of the whole thing. I remember people going to the bathroom to talk to and doing air quotes here, go to the bathroom, like bring their card out, give it to the waitress, and the, you know, the little envelope or the, what is that little thing like, you know, the check will come back to the table and they’d have to, they would have it already paid, right?

And every, and then it would be Upwork, whatcha doing? Oh my God. No, no, no, no. We got it. Right. Like, it was just, I just remember that as a little girl thinking like, wow, I can’t wait to pay the bill one day. Right. And I do, like, I got to a point where, you know, I was able to do that and I’m just, I’m so grateful.

And so having a man that valued that as well was so important to me. And Mike does that. And I will tell you this, okay, I’m sorry if this is like a little bit personal, but I don’t care. I wanna be vulnerable with these shares. Mike only does things that are within his means. So for example, he’s, anytime we’ve ever gone out with my aunts, with my family, with just my mom, he always pays like no question asked.

Sometimes my aunts will fight him, sometimes my mom will fight him, you know, like wrestle the check or whatever. Um, but he always, he always attempts to pay. And typically he gets it right, like he stands up first, he grabs it, he’s on it, he has his card out, ready to pay. But one thing that I very much value about my future husband is that he always stays within his means.

So there have been a couple examples where we had gotten invited to go out, or I was thinking, oh, I wanna check out this restaurant. Can we invite my mom and my aunts to go? And typically the answer is yes. Like he is like, sure, as long as he’s off work, as long as it works with our schedule, and no problem.

But there were a couple times where he said, you know, babe, this week has been really slow. We’re gonna have to take a rain check on that. Can we go next week instead? Because he knew that even though he can afford the two of us to go out and eat that night, he couldn’t afford the 2, 3, 4, $500 bill for all of us to enjoy drinks and dinner.

And that is something that I absolutely value and respect about Mike is because he never goes above his means and he wouldn’t put himself in a situation where he couldn’t afford that. Right. And so this is where I wanna be crystal clear on having that flexibility with finding your person that, you know, just because I have it written down, like, you know, he knows how to pick up the check and he’s very generous.

Doesn’t mean that he technically always has the money to do that, right? This is where the magic of fate and flexibility come in is because you can call in these incredible humans, but that doesn’t mean like the money’s always there, right? But I’m just so grateful for Mike, and, and so to flip that to our dream clients that we’re calling in, right?

When it says. They know how to pick up a check and to be really generous. I would flip that to say they know how to invest in their business. I am calling in business owners, creatives, entrepreneurs, healers, photographers, friends, creatives, all the things that understand the value in investing in their business that pick up the check, that value actually paying for proximity and value getting in the room, and that comes at a price.

Right? Also, that generosity piece that is a huge second part of that that I wanna make sure we’re highlighting, is that they’re also generous in giving to others that are less fortunate, that are sharing the knowledge that they have with open arms. Sharing that knowledge with other friends and industry leaders and other photographers, other people in their industry, I think is so important.

So I feel like that was an easy flip. That was easy. Okay. The next one. He must be supportive of my business ambitions and wildest dreams, but gives me the security to be the best wife and mother. This one was a heavy one for me. This was very, very important. Mike checks all of these boxes. He is very supportive of my business.

He knows that I have wild and crazy dreams. I often say that I am like the kite that flies in the wind and you know, just reaches for the clouds. And Mike is quite literally my anger. He is not tugging me down. Um, he does not pull me down, but he does keep me safe. He reminds me to do a little reality checks here and there.

He reminds me to stay in my own lane. He reminds me that. Okay, that sounds fantastic and that’s a big goal, but how is that gonna happen? Right? So I think that’s beautiful, finding someone that has a little bit of that ying to yang energy. And what was important to me is someone that allows me to pursue these goals and these career driven milestones, but also knows how important it’s for me to be pregnant barefoot in the kitchen.

That is a, that is a goal of mine and a d like a wildest dream of mine for our life one day. And so someone that can balance both, right? Someone knows that there’s seasons for both. I know I’ve always dreamed of having a husband that allows me to stay home with my kids, right? Like I used to always tell myself I will financially set myself up so that I know that I, you know, between the time my first child is born to the last, my last baby, I don’t wanna be working a full-time job.

I don’t wanna be taking on full time work. You know, even in my own business. Until my last baby is like in the first grade, like not even kindergarten for half, half days. Right. Like, and the conversation has even shifted. Now when we’re discussing homeschooling, that’s a whole different world. Right. But we’re not there yet.

We’ll get the conversation there eventually. But yeah, so I wanted a man that respected both, that knew that everything was a season and not one or the other. I remember dating, um, one of my ex-boyfriends and we talked about, you know, potentially starting our family together. We were only dating at the time.

And, and he straight up told me, well, you know, when we start our family, like, you’re gonna have to get a full-time job. Like you cannot be doing this. And I’m just like, what? Like what do you mean? Like, I literally picked this, this photography business so I can have the flexibility so I don’t have a ceiling on my income.

What are you talking about? And that was the next year that I hit over six figures of my business and we happened to break up. There’s a correlation there. But anyway, that’s something that was important to me. And so to flip that, speaking of your dream client. I do want someone that is ambitious and has those big goals and business oriented goals, as well as puts their family first, right?

So I feel like that is kind of, sort of like going back to the top of the list about being family oriented. So important. I want a business owner that knows what it’s like to carry both. I don’t even wanna use the word balance because we all know that that’s crap, right? Nobody’s really balancing anything.

We’re just balancing. So nothing falls down, right? So that’s important to me is working with clients that understand both. For Mike, um, the next one on the list is I want him to be proud of me. This one gets me a little emotional because I know Mike is proud of me. I know he teases me a lot, but that was very important to me to find a partner that, that loves me, wants to grow, and wants to expand, and pushes me to be the best version of myself and challenge myself and to be better and better every day, every year.

At the end of the day, I, I really wanted someone to just simply be proud of me and to accept me wholeheartedly exactly as I am without the need to change, right? Like encouraging that growth and encouraging that expansion. But who I am to the core, I really wanted them to be proud. And Mike is that man for me.

And same thing, to flip that, I would say instead of so much the, the dream client being proud of me, like as a business owner, I would say that I, I would really love clients that are proud of themselves. I mean, I would make that point blank. I am looking to work with business owners that are proud of what they’ve built.

They’re proud of the human that they are, the friend, the creative, the parent, you know, the daughter. Like all of those, those titles that we carry. I want them to be proud of that. And if they’re not in any aspect of their life. There’s always room for growth. There’s always room for love. But, um, at the end of the day, I want them to be good fricking people.

Like that’s it, right? Proud of who they are and are eager to learn more. Okay, so the next one is he grew up in the church and supports raising our kids with faith. So I think that’s so funny, bringing back my dog faith into the conversation. I’m like, oh, that’s so crazy. He’s gonna help raise faith. But that is something that’s really important to me too, that I, I was raised Catholic.

Um, I feel like I fall more into a little bit more of just like the Christian base belief, right? I have my faith in God. I am very woo woo. I also love my crystals. Um, I’ll never be in the category of like, witchcraft stuff, right? Like that’s, that’s taking it a little far for me. But I do believe in the power of nature and, um, holistic whole body, mind, spirit.

And I have so much to learn in all of those modalities, right? At the end of the day, like, I do have my, my faith, I have my faith in God. And that was very important to me. Now, Mike, um, did not grow up in the church. Um, he did not grow up going to church. And um, so there are little, some differences there.

But I will say at the end of the day, Mike has faith. Like he knows there is a higher power. He knows that there’s checks and balances, and he truly lives by the 10 Commandments, bringing back my catechism days. Um, he lives by those, um, without, without telling anybody about it, right? Without preaching that, without sending into the corner being a Jesus lover, which can be a little extreme for me, right?

I think it’s important that, um, we, you know, we do love Jesus and we do believe in God and I feel like we are, we’re living those truths. We’re living the Bible instead of just preaching that. Right. And that is what’s really important to me. So same thing for my dream clients. I think that is very broad to say that I am only looking for believers to work with.

Um, that is absolutely not true. But kind of going back to full circle moment, the last couple points where it’s like I’m just looking to work with good people. I’m looking to work with people that have a higher power that they believe in, whether it’s the universe, whether it is God or any type of other religion that they tend to gravitate towards.

I just want them to know that they’re loved and supported and we are all collectively working towards an impact. So that’s what’s important to me. Having someone like Mike and having a partner that, um, will instill those values into my children is so important. Okay. The next tick point, there’s a lot of these, so I’m gonna try to go through these fast without so many bps, but it’s fun to talk things through.

The next one is he takes initiative to spend time with me. Okay. This one is definitely a childhood wound. Um, after losing my dad, um, him passing away and literally just, you know, taking that chunk of the masculine energy out of my life and out of our family unit. It’s really important to me to spend time with my person.

I actually want to be his best friend. I want to, um, spend time together, whether that’s cooking together, watching tv, relaxing, walking the dogs, um, spending time on the weekends together. Like I wanna be prioritized. And that is something that Mike. Absolutely does. We’ll get busy during the week sometimes, whether with like work schedules and just like crazy stuff going on.

He’ll remind me, he’ll be like, Hey, we haven’t really spent a lot of time together this week. Can we plan dinner together? Or, you know, what do you have going on this date? Or sometimes he’ll know. He’ll be like, are you and Tara hanging out today? Can maybe you reschedule that and we can grab lunch together instead?

Right? Like, he knows my schedule. And um, that is something that I absolutely value and I would absolutely say that for my clients as well. Right? So flipping that for a dream client, I would say I would love to work with clients that take initiative to spend time with their business, right? Like with me as their coach or with me as their photographer.

I want my dream clients to be so excited to spend time with me that, you know, that’s how the magic actually happens, right? I don’t want anybody investing in me working with branding, working with coaching content stuff, unless they’re willing to put in the fricking work, right? Like unless they’re willing to make some changes, there’s no sense in investing in me at all.

Right? And I feel that way on a personal level as well, right? Like if we’re not investing time and love and attention and friendship into each other, then I hate to say it, but like what’s the point, right? So same thing with that. The next one. I want him to adore me with lots of chemistry. So this is something I, so I, I’ve scripted this before for my dream man, and of course I never even put that in there.

I wanted to make sure that was on the list, right? I want someone that is physically, mentally, emotionally attracted to me, right? And I want him to adore me and have lots of chemistry. I want, you know, I wanna walk in the room and, you know, feel those little butterflies or just really just feel that pull towards each other.

And yes, it’s totally overdramatized in the movies. Let’s be honest. Even in the books I love to read, um, it could be a little extra, but I will say that was very important to me. And that is something that Mike checks that box as well. He adores me. Like he, through his actions, through his love languages. I just, I know that that love and that respect is there.

And I would say the, the flip that on the same thing for our dream clients, right? I want them to adore me. Like I want them to tell their friends about me. I want them to know that their lives are impacted by our time spent together. So that it’s absolutely something I would put down for my list of dream clients.

The next one is he knows how to maintain a home and enjoys keeping up with the chores. This is obviously another super personal one as well, but I wanted a handyman. I wanted someone that I know that if anything needed to be fixed, if there was an emergency of any kind, that he just would handle it. That is something that I admire about Mike.

Now to flip that to someone else, right? Um, for their dream clients, kind of similar to the last one, or I should say taking initiative. I’m looking for dream clients that maintain a business and enjoy doing the, let’s call them like productive tasks or the maintenance tasks in their business, right?

Because at the end of the day, just like our clients and just like our dream partners, we need people that take initiative to keep things running the way they are while they are expanding. I find that a lot of business owners struggle with this is because they see shiny object syndrome, they see the potential of digital products, they see the potential of pivots and new offers, and then they get distracted splitting the time and energy into these multiple, multiple things.

And then that’s when you know things go crazy, right? And things don’t actually get done. So the next one, never married no children. This is a very hard ask for me. Um, while I was in the dating pool, especially with my age, it was actually a come to Jesus moment where I realized I may have to marry someone that has children, right?

Like, just because, like, I’m literally 38 now, just like biology and, you know, the timelines of life. I had a feeling that I would, that is something that I wrote down. It is something that I preyed on. And I also had the fate and flexibility to just be open to different possibilities. Now, Mike has never been married.

I have never been married. Neither of us have ever had children. So the fact that I wrote this down, I’m like, heck yes. Like this is what I personally wanted. But I do wanna keep that open-minded for anyone that has beautifully blended families. Everybody has different requests, everybody has different timelines, and, um, just writing things down, no matter what phase or season of life you’re in, can absolutely help attract what you’re looking for.

I think this might be one that I don’t have a flip for. I’ve been trying really hard to be creative with ways to flip that for a dream client, your marital status, how many children you have or don’t have. Absolutely have nothing to do with my business. Um, so I’m gonna skip that one as far as like finding someone.

But if you have something creative that you’d like to share for that, maybe for example, if you are a healer and you work with postpartum moms specifically, like there’s your answer, right? Like, you need clients that have children, right? Like, that is your business. And so if that relates to you in any kind, maybe you are a maternity photographer, right?

Hello? You need moms. Like you need children in your, your photos, right? So what does that look like for you and your business? Make sure you are being very specific. Okay, the next one. Loves to dress up for Halloween and enjoy celebrating the holidays In the last couple decades of my entire life, I’d say I may have dressed up for Halloween with like groups of friends in high school and maybe my college days, but.

I have yet, until I met Mike, I have never had the honor of doing like a super cutesy couples costume. Boyfriends I dated in the past have been hunting during that season. They didn’t give two shits about Halloween. They had no like celebratory bone in their body at all. They thought it was lame. And I know it was just that time of life, right?

Like in your twenties, like guys just like aren’t into that kind of stuff, right? Like, and if they are like, you found a lucky one, right? Because oftentimes they’re just not into that. But I’m so grateful that Mike allows me to dress him up in goofy stuff. A a couple years ago we were cards like he was a king, king of hearts, and I was a queen of hearts, right?

Like these goofy little costumes that we put on and I just love it. I love Halloween. This last year, Mike and I, so I was a cowgirl and Mike was an Uno reverse card. So if you put us together, we were reverse cowgirl. We thought it was so funny, it’s so stupid. But of course these are the costumes you do before kids, right?

It’s just so fun. Like I, once again, going back to like, I just want someone that like woke up happy. Like I just wanted someone to have fun with, to make fun traditions with, to make memories with, and to not think that everything that I wanted was just a waste of time or a waste of money. Same thing for clients, right?

If we can flip that, I would love to work with clients that value celebrating that value, getting together with their girlfriends that love masterminds and retreats and investing in things that bring them joy. That’s something I’m writing down for mine, so let me know what you have for that. Okay. The next one is he must be a good driver with a good sense of direction.

I am a passenger princess to the core, and that honestly started from Nani, my grandmother, because I think I’ve only ever driven with Nani in the car maybe once or twice recently. When we were really little, she drove a lot, but that’s just because Poppy wasn’t in the car with us. Anytime Poppy was in the car with us, he always drove and Nani sat in the passenger seat.

And that’s just something that like, I don’t know, I just like it, like Mike will say, he drives for our safety because he thinks I’m a bad driver, but I just love that. Right? And, um, a good sense of direction. I want someone that I know that if we were camping in the middle of nowhere, that he could get us back to the road safely.

That he knows, you know, his, his areas, like what, what parts of the city to avoid and right. Like I just wanted a good sense of direction and Mike clearly has that and he drives me everywhere. I’m so thankful for that Same thing for your dream client, right? So what does that look like for your dream client?

You know, do they have good sense of direction? Um, do they know what steps to take next? Right? I’m trying to like get creative here with how we can flip that. Um, this may not be one to flip, but, um, we can get creative with that. The next one is Must love dogs. Obviously I’m gonna kind of breeze through some of these as we continue, because once again, as a business owner, it’s okay if you have cats.

It’s okay if you don’t have pets at all. Or maybe a goldfish, right? It doesn’t matter. Um, the next one is handsome and gives me butterflies. So this was huge for me because I wanted someone that I was attracted to. When you find your person, you are literally finding someone that you have to stare at their face for the rest of their life.

And I know that sounds crazy, but it’s true, right? Obviously their personality and their heart is going to make them even more attractive to you. But I wanted someone that, you know, I just, I was pulled to and attracted to and, um, I think I’m gonna skip that one for Dream client because it really doesn’t matter what you look like for us to have a successful partnership in business.

Right? The next one is, it’s also very personal to me, but I wrote down Must Be Best Friends with Mikey, Mike, and Michael. So to backtrack, you, I, I think I’ve mentioned this before in the podcast, but I am just surrounded by so many Michaels, so many Archangel Michaels that protect me. My father’s name was Michael Roger.

My brother is, is a Michael, my best friend Siri. Her younger brother is Michael too. So we both had brothers, St. Michael and Siri actually married a mic as well. So my mic fits right into the picture of all the Michaels, and I literally wrote that down because I wanted to make sure that he was friends with them, that he would get along and that he’d actually want to spend time with them, which he does.

So there’s no way to make that a client flip. But uh, yeah, so the whole Michael thing is a thing and I cannot wait for my Michael picture at our wedding. That’s coming up soon for all of my Michaels. I can’t wait. Okay, so the next one is, doesn’t play video games and prefers to be outside. This is a very personal one to me, and I am so sorry if I offend anybody with a statement.

But, uh, that’s something that was so important to me. I did not wanna date someone that I had to not only, you know, juggle their work schedule, juggle their, their social life, right, like family and friends and what’s going on, and then also compete with spending time with them to play video games. Like, no thanks.

And this is, this is totally a personal preference, but here’s the thing though. I fell in love with a man that loves to hunt. I fell in love with a man that loves to help others and always be there for his friends. So like, I’m literally laughing ’cause I’ve seen those tiktoks where they’re like, I’m sorry, I, you know, my husband doesn’t play video games and now I am looking up recipes for Wild Game.

Right? Like, oh my gosh, like, that’s gonna be my life and I’m okay with that. That was important to me. That may not be important to you at all. You may love to play video games and that, that makes my heart happy. That you have passions and that you wanna do that. Um, but for Mike, that was very important to me and my person, right?

And he doesn’t, we do not have a game console. I’ve never had to buy a game in my entire life. When it comes to Mike, I’ve bought them for past boyfriends. I’ve bought video games for my brother and stuff like that. But like for Mike, nope. And I am so grateful and he loves to be outside, which is such a plus for both of us and our mental health.

We love to be outside. The next one is. Um, his age, right? I would love for him to be at least 30 years old or older. And I actually wrote down that I would love for him to be older than me. Mike is not, Mike is younger than me. I am definitely the cougar in that situation that he says, I’ve never called myself a cougar.

He calls me a cougar. I’m not even gonna mention that for, um, a dream client. Because once again, um, those ages don’t matter, but they may be very specific to you, okay? So think about that for you and your business as well. Um, that may be something that you are looking for your target audience, right? If you are a photographer photographing elopement weddings, you may not have an age group for that, right?

But if you are a coach that is, uh, a wellness coach and you are helping women with their, like pre menopause or anything like that, right? Like clearly that is an age window. It may be varied. It may be a pretty wide, but like. It’s very tight in the age group that you’re working with. Make sure you are very specific with that client.

All right, so the next one is, um, taller and broader than me. Um, that was very important to me. I did not want to put on my husband’s sweatshirt and have it fit me like a little tight cami, right? Like I wanted it to, um, be bigger than me. And I’m so grateful that Mike is broader than me. He’s very masculine.

He feels big. Um, we just fit well together and I’m so grateful for that same thing. I’m gonna skip that. I don’t think there’s any way to flip that into a client. I’d love for him to have a playful spirit that was important to me. Um, he loves to travel. I think I mentioned that already. Um, enjoys hosting and gathering at home.

This was huge to me because kind of going back to celebrations and parties and stuff, I love a good barbecue. I love hosting. I love bringing people together, and I am so grateful that Mike loves to grill. He loves to have his friends over and just hang out, right? Like there’s nothing fancy. Sometimes it’s just like a Sunday barbecue or a Saturday hangout, and I’m so grateful that we have the opportunity to make our home an expansion for that.

Right. And then the next one is emotionally available. And funny, like Brenda said, we have to make sure that the partner that we’re calling in is emotionally available. Right. And you know, funny is a good one. Anybody that can make me laugh, that is one thing that I am forever grateful for that Mike and I laugh every single day.

And I mean like not just like those little LOLs in our head, like, Hmm, oh that was funny. Like we are belly laughing. He makes me pee my pants all the time. Very embarrassing. I know. But like, we just laugh so hard. And I truly believe that has made our bond even better because we just laugh. Like, I mean, we don’t take ourselves so seriously.

We poke fun at each other and life is just so much more fun when we can do those daily like mundane tasks and chores together. And we’re just laughing. All right. And the last one is he’s kind. This was so important to me. Um, oh, and then, sorry, I have a little note here. He’s kind and he’s single. So yes, that was the final tick.

I really wanted to find someone that, to his core was a nice guy. I have dated the assholes. I have dated the guys that were just too cool for school, and they were always nice to me. But like, you know, I just remember, you know, road rage and, uh, you know, showing up to events and thinking, oh God, I hope nobody bumps in the wrong way.

’cause he’ll fight someone. Like I just, ugh, ugh. Like, I just, I hate that type of energy and what I find so, so amazing about Mike checking this box is he’s a nice guy. He, he’s fun, he’s loving, he’s kind. He’ll do anything for his friends and that is something that I will forever and ever be grateful for. I will flip that a hundred percent easy Flip to my dream clients as well, that I hope you have on your list too, is that your clients are kind at the end of the day.

They’re compassionate, they’re friendly, they have a warm heart, you know, a deep soul, and they are just so grateful to have the opportunity to work with me, to work with you as well, and see how that plays out. So that was a very long list. That was a perfect example of scripting and manifesting and writing out your wishes for your dream partner, your dream relationship, and then of course, flipping that to finding your dream clients.

Now, I challenge you to take this list, to take these. These bullet points, if you will, and apply that to anything that you’re working towards, right? Maybe that is a dream job that you’re looking for. Maybe that is a dream home that you’re looking for. What does it look like? What does it feel like? How does it make you feel?

All of those are so important. And think of everything, right? Every possible scenario, how it’s gonna make you feel, what it looks like. And like I said, it’s not so much about, you know, how tall is this guy? Or, you know, how big of an investment your dream clients are willing to make, right? Like, what’s their budget, right?

All of those things, they’re, they’re important, but at the end of the day, it’s how they make you feel. And I only want the best for you. I hope that you have the opportunity to, to really take the time to journal on this, write these things down, make them a part of your script, and then tuck them away.

Release it, leave it to God, leave it to the universe and watch how quickly your life changes. So we are planning our wedding here. We are down to the wire and I cannot wait to share the whole wedding experience with you. And I am forever grateful for Brenda, the psychic who told me to bring home faith.

We all gotta have little faith. Make sure you’re following faith on Instagram. It’s gotta have faith and uh, she’s just so cute. I probably should post some more on there. Thank you for being here. I cannot wait to see your list If you have it scribbled on a notepad, if you would like to send me some voice notes of what it is that you’re calling in, please share with me, slide into those dms, send me an email.

I would love to hear it, and I am so, so grateful to have you on this journey, and I love you so much and cannot wait to chat next time. Have a good week, babe. I love you. That’s a wrap on another episode of Quianna Marie Weekly. Thank you so much for your listenership and support. You can find the resources and show notes for this episode and more at QuiannaMarie.com/podcast.

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