What if you could just let all of the stress go? It’s time to release some trapped emotions. In today’s episode, I’m continuing my mindset series and introducing you to Jaclyn Renee, creator of the Release Method. Jaclyn shares her experiences of creating the method and becoming a vessel for God, plus how to release stress from your daily life. 

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Removing Social Media To Reduce Stress (3:54) 

The Stress We Put On Ourselves (9:00)

Tapping Into Alignment (12:03)

Living With Trust (20:34)

How The Release Method Was Born (31:32)

Practicing The Releasing Method On Your Own (41:18)

Key Tip From Jaclyn (44:36)

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Website: releasemethod.co

Instagram: instagram.com/release.method

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Quianna: Have you ever met someone in your life and thought you must be a literal angel on Earth? They came into your life when you needed them the most and helped you in even more ways than you can imagine. This is exactly how I felt when I first met Jaclyn. I had the opportunity to first meet her at a networking event here in Phoenix, and I knew she would be a huge part of my life.

I just didn’t know what to expect next. Didn’t know when I would see her again. Within a couple months after meeting her, I got to experience the release method while she kickstarted a mastermind day hosted by my soul sister Felicia Romero. This experience moved me in ways I never expected. Yes, Jacqueline got our bodies physically moving, but my energy and emotions they got moving too.

It was an experience that I believe everyone needs to feel, and I say feel because that’s really what it felt like, right? Like. Yes, it’s something that you should do, but ooh, I would love for you to experience the release method. Imagine a series of dancing screaming, squeezing your muscles, releasing, and literally roaring and screaming like lions.

It’s pretty hard to explain without actually moving your body and fully immersing yourself into the release method. As we continue this mindset series, I’m honored to introduce you to Jacqueline Renee. Today we’ll be chatting all about stress. Jacqueline’s experience with detoxing from social media, finding alignment with our true calling, becoming a vessel for God, and staying true to your passions and leadership.

She even shares more about the release method, how it originated, and why it’s important to add this practice to our daily lives. Jaclyn is a Christian women’s holistic health coach and faith-based movement facilitator dedicated to empowering women to reclaim their health. Embrace inner peace and grow closer to God, having battled chronic illness symptoms such as bloating, fatigue, weight loss, resistance, acne, and anxiety for decades.

Jaclyn deeply understands the challenges her clients face, and let’s face it, we can all relate to that too. So whether we’re her clients or not, a lot of this feels relatable. After years of seeking answers from various doctors, she took charge of her health by pursuing her education as a holistic health coach through the Institute of Integrative Nutrition.

Through her own healing journey, Jaclyn discovered the transformative power of holistic health and the idea of using food as medicine. While this approach alleviated many physical ailments, she still felt a void in her mental and spiritual wellbeing. It was through finding her way back to Jesus that she experienced profound healing, which she credits as a cornerstone of her current mental and emotional health.

It’s truly an honor to introduce you to Jacqueline and to share these words of wisdom. Let’s get this party started and get Jaclyn on the show.

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Ready? Let’s go.

Hey, hey, hey. Welcome to the party, Jaclyn. It is such an honor to see your beautiful face. How are you this morning?

Jaclyn: I’m so good. Thank you, Quianna. It’s been a great day so far, but even better now that I get to see your face.

Quianna: Oh my gosh! We are gonna have so much fun. I wanna just get these questions going.

Reduce Stress + Find Alignment

So Jaclyn, can you let us know how can we reduce our stress and find alignment?

Jaclyn: Wow, that’s a loaded question because today is so overloaded with stress. I recently just took, well, I’m still on a hiatus from social media. I’m about one month in. I’m gonna push it out one more week just to give myself a little bit more wiggle room.

But it made me realize I had huge self-realization of how much social media plays a part into our daily stress, whether it be because we are constantly getting that dopamine hit from it, we need to be doing multiple things at once. Or that we’re comparing ourself when we go on there. We’re having imposter syndrome when we go on there.

So right off the bat, I’m just gonna go for it. People do not wanna hear this, but I’m gonna say if you can reduce even or eliminate your social media connection, or we can call it an addiction as well too, I think that will help people reduce their stress significantly because we can talk about integrating meditation, prayer.

Removing Social Media To Reduce Stress

You know, stretching, exercise, all of these things. But if in between all of those things, we’re constantly on social media, we’re not really going to lower our stress or feel centered, you know?

Quianna: Yes. Oh my gosh. So what drove you to do this? I’m, I’m so curious about taking this, I’m gonna call it a social media detox, like just.

Ripping off the bandaid, at what point did you decide this was a good choice for, for your spirit, for your soul, for your mind? All the things.

Jaclyn: Yeah, absolutely. You know, I had been frustrated and dealing with a lack of creativity for a while where I felt I don’t wanna be on here, I don’t feel authentic. I am in, I’m out of integrity.

But, um, and I did keep getting massive spiritual hits from God saying, just take a break. Just take a break. And I would be like, but my whole business depends on it. My life depends on it. Like, where will I get clients? Where will I, people see me, book me all these things. And something that I learned is that’s like the spirit of idol tree.

So you’re like idolizing something as your success over your faith. And so, yeah, it was like a big

Quianna: slap in the face.

Jaclyn: Yeah. Heard about this. And so he had been saying this for probably over a year, but I didn’t listen until four weeks ago. I just said, I’m gonna surrender and trust it all and just do that and let go.

And, and that was really where it came from. And once I was about a week in, or every day I was journaling, and once I was about a week in, I was realizing how much of a stronghold it had on me. Like a choke hold where I was like, ah, I should go back on. I should do something. And then I, I was like, wow, really sit in this and let go of this addiction.

And the craziest thing too, Quianna. I’m sober, so I kick that addiction of needing to be having alcohol or any drugs. I’m celibate. I’ve kicked that intimacy addiction. I am, you know, I’ve gotten rid of Netflix. I don’t have a tv. Don’t eat sugar, and then I could not get rid of this addiction. It was bad.

It was the worst of all. I thought it would be the easiest. But it was the worst of all.

Quianna: Oh my gosh. Well, I am so grateful that you took that choke hold and you literally released, like you let it go. And, and you know, I almost wanna take this back a little bit when you mentioned about stress, right? And kind of like playing that comparison game.

For me personally, I’ve always thought of the definition of stress is simply being somewhere where you would rather be somewhere else. I think that to me is like, that can be a huge ripple effect. You can take it for what it is, it could be lighthearted, or it can get really deep really fast and realize, whoa, like I’m playing the comparison game.

I’m not in the relationship that I crave because I saw this on Instagram. Or, oh, I’m not releasing this next big digital product or this course because I saw this webinar and now I’m behind and feel inadequate or not smart enough, or not wealthy enough, right? Like all of a sudden this stress. I would say highlighted or showcased on Instagram and social media is just like radiating.

And it is like, it is something where we just feel like we’re falling behind and not in alignment for what God is calling us to do, for what our higher power the universe is, is guiding us. Because we’re not listening. We can’t hear what we’re called to do. We can’t take action because we’re stressed out that we need to get that next post up or we need to engage and.

Oh my gosh. It’s just this swirling effect. So the fact that you, like you mentioned, you kicked the curb. I can’t believe you gave up sex faster than you gave up social media like that right there

Jaclyn: is crazy. Right? You’re like, what do you do without it? I guess I was scrolling a lot, so, but yeah, it’s, and you said something that really hit the nail on the head.

The stress is basically being somewhere and thinking or wanting to be somewhere else. I also believe that it’s also thinking about things that we cannot control. So it’s constantly keeping our minds in the future where we’re worried about something that hasn’t happened that probably won’t happen, and we’re trying to control something that is, is non-existent.

Honestly, I believe we create our own anxiety. We create our own hell. We create our own stress. Everything we do, it builds that. So when we say I am stressed or I am anxious, we have to be able to take a step back and take, honor the integrity that we put into it and say, how did I contribute to this? Did I put my, you know, put my calendar, take all of my weekends and book them out for weeks?

Did I overbook myself for work? Overcommit to a project? You know, and how can I really look at my life and truly say what really needs to be in there? And I can’t say that without also paying, acknowledge to the fact that it’s our worthiness. That keeps us lack of worthiness or missing worthiness that keeps us from saying, this is enough, because we’re constantly thinking we have to be more, and then we’re stressed when we could take a step back and say, this is enough for me.

I’m worthy as is, and the stress just goes away. The anxiety goes away.

Quianna: Wow, that is a beautiful, just articulation of that feeling because I also believe that too, and I struggle with that. I will wholeheartedly vulnerably share that I’m a future tripper. Like I look at the future and I think, Ugh, I’m not where I wanna be.

I am. I sometimes even pressure Mike, my boyfriend, who I’ve prayed for, for the last, oh my gosh, like my entire life. I have prayed for him and I just, now I’m pushing like, are we gonna get married this year? Are we gonna get married next year? Like, what’s this plan? And I just. I’m creating so much chaos of these things that just don’t exist yet, right?

Like, we’re just not there. So I love that you mentioned, like finding that piece and asking yourself, wait a second here, am I contributing to this stress? Like, we need to just do a little self gut check right now.

Jaclyn: Honestly, creating chaos is just a lack of trust for God. It’s a, it’s a lack of trust and I’m right there with you.

I’m not saying I’m not above it. I’m not above it. Not below it. I’m right beside you with probably every person who is listening to this. As soon as we step into creating chaos in our own life, we’re saying, I don’t trust you.

Quianna: Oh my gosh. Well, I have to ask. Now that you have had this extended amount of time being completely, I would say like social media free and letting your mind and body just find peace.

Um, like you mentioned, you’re not even watching tv. I wanna chat more about the alignment piece. So now that you’ve had some time to really think, to really feel centered and to tap into that openness and say, Hey, I’m here. I’m a vessel. God, please like direct me. I’m looking for the signs. I’m praying for your guidance.

How do we tap into that alignment?

Jaclyn: I think it’s gonna look different for everybody. I’ve been in deep journaling sessions and prayer to say what is in alignment for me? So the first thing is that I’m never gonna have the apps on my phone anymore. Social media for me is a business. I know social media for you is a business, which means it will be run as a business from my laptop or from my Mac, my Big Mac computer that I’m viewing on today.

Okay. Once he said that, and I was tapping into that, I looked into a bunch of, um, social media management platforms. There are millions, by the way. I had no idea just running it myself with smoke off my fingers, you know? That you can actually automatically post to multiple platforms and kind of change and schedule out, and it’s somewhere between 25 and 35 bucks a month, which works for all of my sanity.

So I, I felt like that was the first thing that would fall into alignment is the management of it, because that was one of the things that was. Overwhelming for me is the dms or the reach out, the comments, all that stuff. So now it can be done from my computer as a business. Then additionally, when you say the word alignment, I, I kind of go back to what I was saying about integrity of my message.

I felt as if I was maybe afraid to be truthfully who I am, or like, sometimes I’m always like, let your freak flag, you know, let your freak flag fly. Yeah, yeah. You know, and let it be truly known. And I think a lot of people hold back because they’re afraid of what people will think when they’re their true authenticity.

And, um, one of the things that I was so afraid to say, and I have like said, my sorrys and repented for this, but I love Jesus and I am so connected to him and he has saved me in multiple ways. But for whatever reason, I would kind of play down and be like, source creator, God, you know, these kinds of things where everyone could relate to it.

When the truth of the matter was I was really talking about for me, for Jesus. So taking that break made me tap into what’s truly important, where I can come back and say. I don’t care what anyone thinks. I’m gonna live in alignment to myself. And if that doesn’t work for other people, that is okay. You are totally free to unfollow me even if you’re my close friend, and hopefully it brings the right people to me.

Quianna: I love that so much, and I love that you’re authentically sharing that too. That sometimes. And even from a business as like aspect too, like when we’re speaking to everybody, we’re speaking to nobody, right? So that’s like another little gentle reminder too. So if your focus is Jesus, that’s a beautiful thing.

Like that is something that needs to be celebrated and not put on that filter of like. Am I being politically correct? If I say this, am I gonna offend somebody like it? It can be so scary sometimes and paralyzing for what, not even what to post next on social media, but even just how to live your life.

’cause you’re, you’re on eggshells thinking, oh, is this going to upset someone where at the end of the day, hold on a second here. Like, I have my truth to live. I have my life and my mission and this is what feels good to me. So I love that you shared that. Like I just wanna take a little. Breath of fresh air and share grace that like, it’s okay to, to really direct that love to one thing, one source, one God, one Jesus.

Like. I just think that’s beautiful.

Jaclyn: Yeah. Thank you so much. I appreciate that. And, and thank you for honoring that in me too. It feels really good to say it. And although I haven’t posted it fully yet, I’m like working on my posts and stuff and like coming back, um, it feels freeing to be able to just say, okay, like this is who I really am.

One of my mentors, Brandon Collinsworth from Warrior Retreats, he said that his, his social media has almost 400,000 followers, but he grew from 80,000 to 400,000 followers in like a year and a half, which is very fast growth. And when he talks about what his, what happened with his growth, ’cause he had no idea what was gonna happen.

He said that Instagram is his journal and it’s for him. So that’s just how he’s every day. Is this for me? Am I doing this for me or am I doing this for someone else? And he just would. And he talks about being in the God pocket and, and pouring into himself self love. Love is his mission. Um, and as a man that’s not always easily received, but he was like, you know what?

This is my journal. He writes poetry, he does all these things, and it just blew up because he was super authentic. Super aligned. I mean, you’re reading his journaling, you know his, his diary. So why can’t, why do we have to follow some algorithm, worry about being viral, say the right thing, do the right thing.

Why not just go full all, all out and let it be your personal journal or your journal to God and let that shine and then, you know. See who it brings in for you, and you’ll be living in so much more integrity.

Quianna: I love that so much. And that is something that I’m gonna start actively doing too. Like sometimes I even, I do, I feel called to write a certain caption or to share something.

And it’s so funny because my close, close friends will reach out and be like, Hey, are you okay? Like, I saw that post. Like, what, what was that about? Or what are you talking about? Like, you know, I know you’re there to encourage your clients, but like, are you fully booked right now? Like, what’s happening?

Right. And it’s just, it’s just interesting that I, I would really love to be a little bit more. Just like have that integrity of like sharing for myself, like sharing for what I need and what I’m going through, and that’s what’s gonna attract your tribe. Like that’s what’s gonna attract. I don’t even wanna call them followers.

I just, it’s like your friends and your family and the people that are going to get you where you need to go next. It’s so amazing.

Jaclyn: Yeah. And, and the right people who, you know, there’s a huge term that many people don’t talk about, which is relatability. There’s such this innate process that so many business coaches step into, which is you gotta have a hook and you gotta have this value and you’ve gotta have, and it keeps us in this rat race of like that it has to be this way.

And when it’s not in alignment to that, we’re worried it’s not gonna go viral or it’s not gonna reach the right people. And all of that just stems from such a sales point of view, not a relatable point of view. I just, I’ve been, as I’m working on my rebrand, the statement I have at the top is, you’re not selling anything right now.

You’re sharing your soul and everything that I’m writing underneath that is, remember like not one post right now. You’re not selling one thing, you’re not offering one thing, not even a freebie. Sharing your soul and showing who you are. For a while, and I don’t know how long that will be or how many sales I’ll lose for it, or how many followers I’ll lose for it, but that’s it.

I just wanna start sharing my soul, you know, and allowing it to, to be there for the person who really needs it. Because I know women are going through dark times right now. I personally was, I know so many women who are, and we have this facade on Instagram or any other platform that everything is great.

No, it’s not okay. For most interviews, I’m wearing pajama pants on the bottom, and as soon as it’s over, I’m going to take my makeup off and I’m gonna go lay on the couch, right? Like we are all in this new age of suffering and it’s normalized. And I can’t stand it for one more second, so I’m gonna not, I’m not gonna let it happen to me.

I’m not gonna let it happen to my sisters. So I’m gonna start authentically vulnerably sharing that about me. And I hope if it helps one person, you know, either find God or find themselves or heal. And I’ve done what I came here to do,

Quianna: you know? Oh my gosh, that sounds incredible. And I’m so happy that you are moving forward with this.

So, before we move on, I have a couple, I have a couple questions about trust. And, and how, like what does that really mean to you? Because I feel like somebody can journal on that. Someone can write that down. Someone can say, I believe I have trust in Jesus. And Right, like in source, like whatever it is.

Even simply just, I trust myself, like I got my own back. Right? Like, if, if that feels good and a little more comfy right now in your body, like, let’s run with that. But when it comes to trust, like how do we actually live it, Jacqueline? Like how do we actually embrace trust and what does that look like for you?

Jaclyn: Okay. I’m gonna answer the second question first. Okay. What does it look like for me? And then people can kind of draw from that. But is whole year has, starting with 2024 has been a unraveling and unlearning of not. Leaning on my own understanding, like I have it all. I’ve got it. I can do it by myself and I’m gonna control it the whole way down.

Like like the plane is going down and I’m just gonna try to do it by myself and not take like my partner’s help or anything. Right? That has been this past year and it drew me closer to my faith. To, to Jesus. And a huge part of that was just learning about him because I didn’t know enough about him. Once I started learning more about him, I realized he died for us so that we could live.

We don’t lean on our own understanding. Don’t do things by ourselves. We do them with him and we do them in community. As soon as that clicked for me, it was like, oh, I’ve been isolated in my little box trying to do all my things by myself. Like even just us getting on the uh, call today.

Right? And we were like, oh, let’s talk more about helping each other grow. Cool. That’s an amazing conversation to have. Right? And it’s a needed conversation, but in my past we’ve talked about our egos. My flesh, I would’ve been like, oh, I definitely don’t want Kiana to know that I’m struggling in my business, so I can’t dare talk about that with her.

So I’ll just suffer in silence, like give myself heartburn and binge eat at night so that I can do it by myself. And that is just a terrible place to be. Nobody wants to be there. I know there are so many women who are doing that. It’s like the bold face up front and then in the back we’re struggling. So I started telling people what was going on in my life.

You know, I’m struggling financially, I’m struggling with my mental health. I am experiencing gut issues again, I am really tired, you know, my skin is breaking out. And although those feel like complaints, what’s more or less happening is that I’m just sharing. I’m showing people who the real me is. Because people wouldn’t check on me because they always thought I was okay and I’m not.

I wasn’t. I met her today for sure. I’m in a better place today. So, yeah, so really that, what that looked like for me was understanding I don’t have to do it all alone. And more often than that, I need to start having honest conversations with the people who matter in my life, whether I’m talking to God or I’m talking to Kiana in front of me, that this is the real me.

And I need help. I need support. I need prayer. So I don’t know if that’s helpful to anybody out there, but I know it was super helpful to me because my life has changed already because of it in the last couple months.

Quianna: Yes, I love that so much. And I think one thing that came through for me with trust was having an understanding that we can have trust in God.

We can have trust in Jesus, we can have trust in ourselves. The fact that you mentioned the trust in community, like Woo, like that to me, gave me full body chills. I remember, so we used to read the Bible with my uncle when we were little, and I have these vivid, vivid stories of us. Literally, we’d be in our pajamas and we would just be, you know, reading different verses and stuff.

And he, he was so good about relating it to our life, right? Like what was happening in school, what was happening in sports. Like it, he took those stories and then related it for us. And one thing that I will live with forever and I love any opportunity to share this is Uncle Todd always said that your like angels and the word of the Lord and just like your faith, like God works through people.

I. And it’s sometimes I think, and you know, this doesn’t have to get too preachy, but like sometimes I do think that there is this, like, this thought like, you know, only Jesus is the answer for me, or only God knows. And, and sometimes I think, wait a second, like you mentioned, the more you learn about him, like, wait, he worked through community.

Literally having that trust to know that when you confide in your friends and you share bits of vulnerability and like you mentioned that relatability where you’re like, oh wait, hold on. Like I like this girl because she’s telling me this story and I can like have this. Just like this breath of fresh air, like, you know, like my shoulders can relax knowing that I feel safe, that since she shared that with me, now I can be true and I can be honest.

And I just think that is just so beautiful to have that reminder that God works through community. So when you trust, hey, I need help with something, or I’m looking for this. That’s when the sparks fly, that’s when these opportunities start coming and like literally like almost like the yellow brick road gets paved before you because you gleaned on trust.

And I just think that is so beautiful.

Jaclyn: Absolutely. 100%. You know, even in um, the Bible, which I’m sure you read this. Basically God sends gatekeepers and they’re humans on this planet. So if you’re not leaning on community and you’re just praying to Jesus, praying to God saying, I need help with this, but you can’t do it yourself here on earth, you do need someone else to help you on earth.

A human that also another child of God. Right. So do I have time to tell a mini story? Of course. Let’s go. Yeah. Okay. So this is in fact a story where I was a gatekeeper. So for some reason God kept putting on my heart to, basically, I’ve been working on learning how to manage my finance as well, and God put on my heart, I owe $8,000 on my car still while I can sell it for much more than that, pay off that debt and get a car with the rest of the money, then I will be debt free in my car, which is great.

So he’s been putting that on my heart. So I was looking around calling different dealerships and I, I ended up getting connected to a dealership close to me and the first guy that called me, I was like, it’s not him. I just didn’t feel the right feeling. So a guy calls me back, um, we’ll call him, I don’t wanna call him by his real name.

Yeah. That’s called John Easy name. Yeah. So his name’s John. He calls me back and he says, Hey, you know, my colleague said you’re trying to look to do this. I’d love to help you with it. And he just, I could tell I was supposed to talk to him. So I go in to talk to him. And here’s the thing, a dealership doesn’t understand being debt free from a car.

They don’t get that because their whole job is to make you walk out with a brand new car with at least $20,000 of debt with putting a little bit down, right? And so they were like, they don’t even have cars on the lot for sale for like four, five. You gotta go to Facebook, marketplace for that, right? Yes.

Sell the car to the dealer, take the money and go find your own car, basically, right? He’s like, can you explain this again to me? Like you wanna get into another car? And I’m like, okay, I’m just gonna be honest. And I was like, this is one of the first times I’ve been super forthcoming with this. I was like, the Lord told me to be debt free 2025.

And in order to do that. I need to sell this car, pay off the rest, and get a car with the rest of it, which you know is gonna humble me because I’m not gonna be driving around in a new car and it’s not gonna be the nicest of cars, but it’s going to set my mind free from debt. And I keep talking about God is asking me to do this and this is the way, and if you can’t make it happen, it doesn’t matter because God will find a way.

He starts tearing up. He starts to cry and I’m like, this is a grown man of a dealership. He’s tearing up in his office and I’m like, I mean, I know this is tough to swallow, but are you okay? I was on my knees last night praying to God for clarity in the direction of drawing closer to the Lord because I have been like distracted.

The enemy has been distracting me. I’ve been like fighting with my girlfriend. I’ve been, you know, playing video games for too long. I haven’t been really like honoring myself and honoring my relationship to God. And here you walk in and you’re willing to get rid of a basically 2021 car, which is not that old, with not that many miles on it, and buy a beater for the obedience of God.

And I was like, well, this is what he said, so I gotta do it. And he. I know God sent you to me as a messenger to show me how I need to start deepening my relationship. So did we get the deal? No, we didn’t do the car deal because they can’t make it happen at that dealership. But him and I spent the next hour talking about building ourselves up in faith, and I ended up sending him a book.

Um, one of my favorite books, the Purpose Driven Life by Pastor Rick Warren, and he, you know, he messaged me, this has been so beautiful. Thank you so much for this. And then I left and I was like, I guess maybe I’m not supposed to sell my car. Maybe I’m just supposed to go there and have that conversation with him.

Right. But I’m still open to figuring it out. I just. Feeling like I was supposed to be there. And I, I’m sure you’ve had that instance where you felt like you were supposed to be there, or nevertheless, someone else was supposed to be right next to you in the moment you were about to maybe do something wrong or that didn’t feel good for you, and they were there to sort of uphold you.

And we can’t do that without being honest. If I would’ve walked in the dealership and just told ’em, I just wanna do this, and that’s it, period. We wouldn’t have gotten to that conversation. It wouldn’t have been a whole thing. It would’ve just been more like, yeah, we can’t do it. Okay, fine. So there’s my story about how important it is for community and your angels on earth that God send to you because it’s truly, truly important.

Quianna: Yes. Oh my gosh. I’m so happy you shared that story and. It’s absolutely relatable, right? Whether that is moments of us as like listeners being the gatekeepers and I just call them angels on Earth versus us meeting these people, right? Like, whew. Like it just gives me full body chills to know that we’re all integrated, we’re all connected.

Oh my gosh, this is so good. So I would love to take the conversation and do a little, like 180 a little shift here, Jacqueline. I got to experience the release method with you multiple times. I think, wait, maybe just once. I think I got to experience like fully not just photographing it, but like fully experiencing it with Felicia Romero in her home and she hosted a mastermind event, and I just, I want to know the backstory on how this release method was born and how.

Really moving your body making sounds like, just like really tapping into our, I just feel like just tapping into our bodies can really release all this toxic energy, all this movement. Like I just, let’s just talk about it ’cause I’m so excited to learn more.

Jaclyn: Awesome. Yeah. So release method was born out of my own pain.

I had been struggling, my mom passed away about three years ago. And the first year, if you’ve ever had anyone pass close to you the first year, you’re sort of just surviving. You’re in fight or flight, you’re mostly avoiding your emotions, trying not to be super sad. You know, a lot of people are gonna ask you about it and so you’re just trying to like, here goes the same conversation over and over.

Yeah, it’s terrible. Thank you for asking. But, um, I spent the first year avoiding it. Which I thought I wasn’t because I was like in my exercise game, in my eating well, game journaling, doing all these things, and really I was truly avoiding the full on grief. Um, so at the one year mark, I hit a mass depression.

My whole body was in chronic pain getting out of bed. I would literally put my feet on the floor and just be like, Ugh. I’m just like crippling pain. Like a lot of, what’s that called? On the bottom of your feet when you get, it’s like. I can’t remember the name of it. When you’re arched hurting Really bad.

I don’t know. Somebody’s,

Quianna: yes, I know someone’s shouting it in their mind right now. Yeah,

Jaclyn: it’s not whatever it’s, but my feet hurt so bad all the time. Plantar fasciitis. Okay. Yes, everyone kept trying to treat me for plantar fasciitis, but nothing was working. Um, my back was hurting, my skin was breaking out really bad.

I was just in a bad place with my health. I really, this is such a huge part of my, my testimony, but I had gotten further from God along that journey, and I wasn’t really hearing his voice. When I would pray and ask for help, I was definitely self isolating and I had a few friendships. I don’t know if you’ve ever been in a place where you’ve lost friendships due to change of life.

Those seasons where we grow and, and we lose some friendships. I was also in that season too, so felt like. I couldn’t reach out to certain people that you were really close with, so I just kept praying and eventually I walked into a church alone here. I didn’t know many people. I walked into a church alone.

I. Got with a prayer partner and started praying a little bit more. And the idea of getting Rebaptized came up for salvation for renewal. Um, ’cause it had been since I was a baby. So I did. And within a week or two things started to soften. I felt God’s voice again, and he started to tell me. You need to move your body to move the grief out.

Like you need to express your anger. You need to ex ’cause I was angry with my mom’s death and I was also felt very guilty because of the relationship we shared over our years. This, these are the things you think about when you lose a parent is. The things you didn’t do when they were alive. Just FYI, if you still have your parents hug ’em a little tighter.

And so the guilt, the anger, all that stuff was stored inside me and it was causing the pain. And that’s basically what God was telling me. And so I would just put music on and he would just kind of tell me, just move your body. Do these things, thrash around. And I was having like tantrums, like when I tell you tantrums, they were like insane.

Like probably neighbors wanted to call the cops on me or something. And after a while it just got so much lighter. Like I felt so much lighter in my body. I was, the pain was starting to go away. I was starting to feel joy again because I wasn’t feeling any joy. I was feeling like, okay, I wanna go outside again.

I wanna do things. And I just thought I’m onto something. Like, really, this is the gift from God that I need to bring to other people. Because if I’m experiencing this much pain and grief when I’m already living a quote unquote healthy lifestyle. How much are other people struggling? And it just snowballed into, okay, I’m gonna start creating this.

I call, I say that I co-created it with God, but like creating this method and cadence eventually brought it to my retreat in Sedona in 2023 and everyone was like. What? This is crazy. I need to, I need this in my life every day because as grown women wins, the last time we’ve really expressed our feelings really fully.

We always hold back. We’re always trying to just be like poised and graceful and like not mad. I. So when you get that opportunity, it feels so freeing and you, like you said, you got to experience it and like just let yourself be free. You did so good at expressing that day too. Just we beat the floor, we scream into the air, we punch the pillow, and that’s how release method was born and is what it is today.

Quianna: Incredible. Oh my gosh. Well, I’m so sorry that it was built through pain, right? Like you had to experience this traumatic experience with your mom. And then go through that year of like just. Survival, right? Like just getting through life and then finally realizing, whoa, hold on. Like I need to literally shake this out.

Like I need to rattle. Like I need to change my mindset on this. I need to get my body moving. And I just think that’s incredible. And now you have this beautiful gift that you can share with others, right? Like you’re like, cool, no matter what you’re going through, maybe you. I’m not a doctor or psychiatrist, but they have like little ts and like big T traumas, right?

Like everybody’s going to kind of self, self-diagnose their trauma. And I kind of put them on a spectrum. I dunno why we do that, but we do. And no matter where you are on that spectrum, right, it’s like we can move our body, we can dance, we can scream and, and I do wanna share too, like, so my dad did pass away when we were little, right?

So I was like nine, almost 10. I want to share this story with you, Jacqueline, because I just think it all ties together and I just think it’s so beautifully. It just makes perfect sense. And so my dad, he was super, like, he’s super Native American, but no, he’s, he is Native American, right? And he, I. He used to always make these crazy sounds.

He’d be in the shower and he would like make these crazy sounds. He would be in the garage and he, he was just like moving his body. We would, we literally would do, we would take baths in our swimsuits, but we would take baths in the river up near Lake Tahoe. Right. And like, so that we were literally cold plunging before, like it was cool.

Right. And it was just so crazy to have those moments like be with you. And be with all these incredibly high achieving women there at Felicia’s home, right? And get to experience this release method. So all this energy and all of this love, and just like all these emotions came up from my dad and it was just this weird connection of like, of my faith and of God whispering these things to me, my dad talking to me, whatever.

And it’s like, you’ve had this in you all along. You love to dance, you love to move, like get your body moving and, and just knowing that that’s. A gift that we can share with each other and that you are the one to lead us to do that. Right. Like you said, as women in general, especially ambitious entrepreneurs, busy moms, we don’t express ourselves.

Like we don’t, we don’t take the time to like literally lay on the floor and just like pound the floor and scream and just. Let those emotions run wild. So having these incredible experiences that you provide to create that green light or that permission slip or that like, like just full send moment is just so beautiful and this needs to be shared like.

This release method, it needs to be at every workshop, every retreat. And we were talking before we, we started recording like every high school. Like could you imagine having this tool at an assembly in your high school? Like, ah, like this needs to get out. Jacqueline.

Jaclyn: Yes, absolutely. Thank you so much for sharing that story and that connection.

What a beautiful. Just connection that it created for you. And you know, that’s often what happens with people when they’re doing these things is the subconscious starts to open and it’s like what has been hiding there? Some people come to class and they haven’t cried in years. Everything we do is based off a to-do list.

We’re never fully in this moment. What is next? What is next? What is next is always, oh, after this I record this podcast. I have to do this, I have to do that. It’s never really fully in the moment, but when you’re in class, when you’re taking release method. You’re ex fully experiencing, you can’t do anything outside of that moment.

There’s nothing else for you. And so it starts to break up in the subconscious and we will connect with things that we’ve been holding in from childhood or teenage years or even last week that needs to come out. And it’s so powerful how the body just knows and start to intuitively let those things go.

It’s really beautiful. So thank you for sharing that.

Quianna: Yes, of course. Oh my gosh. So. For someone listening that may not be local here to the Scottsdale, Phoenix area slash this is your invitation to hire you to, I I’m assuming you’ll travel like anywhere.

Jaclyn: I do, I do a lot of stuff globally. I was just in Peru, Mexico.

Um, you know, will, like, will travel for experience for

Quianna: sure. Yeah. Oh my gosh. Well, yes. I’m like yes to that. Less, more to those experiences. But let’s say someone’s listening and they’re feeling called to this. They’re like, okay, cool. I’m interested in moving my body. What does that look like? I’m interested in literally just screaming on top of a mountain.

Like do you have one type of exercise or something that something tangible or like I say, another to-do list, but something that we can do tonight or maybe tomorrow morning that can help just release some of these pressures.

Jaclyn: Absolutely. So Kiana knows this. In a release method, we always do something called the lion’s roar.

And the lion’s roar is like an empowerment exercise. The lion is one of seven animals that are female led. So, you know, feeling into that power and confidence, because I think so many women are in self-doubt, self lack, you know, not operating from abundance, feeling unworthy of things, you know, not believing in themselves, not trusting.

And so if you can crouch down on your floor. Just let a couple lion’s words rip. Open up your chest and just get really crazy and loud with it. Your whole mental state will shift. Your whole physical state will shift. You’re basically rattling your nervous system, rattling your fascia, and allowing things to express.

Now, anytime we express heavily like that, we are going into a little bit of a fight or fight response. You do wanna come back, so you always wanna regulate with maybe some rocking after. But yeah, if you can let three large lines or rip at the top of your lungs, that will express. So much for you and release so much of stored pent up aggression, anger, fear, worry, anything.

So even if you’re in that state where you’re like, I’m super overwhelmed and I can’t take action, just try that exercise and that can be super powerful. When your house needs warnings first though,

Quianna: make sure they know that you’re safe. Make sure and at this point, bring everybody in the living room. Bring everybody in the backyard and do it together.

Like this is something that, yeah, this could be a shared experience. And yeah, there’s so much power in just letting go. Like, just, and you know what’s funny is when the experience happened, when I was, um, doing the release method and stuff, there was that level of like, oh, who’s gonna look at me? Or like, oh, what is somebody gonna think of me?

And like, even, even with so much grace and so much knowledge that like, hey, like you’re in a safe place here, it’s fine. Like. Even we can have that own feeling when we’re literally on a hiking trail in the middle of the desert. Like there’s still that peace that’s like, oh, who’s gonna, what’s someone gonna think of me?

And it’s like, we just have to let that go. We have to let that just. Fall to the floor. Don’t even worry about that. Don’t worry about what someones, I think about you because what you’re going to experience with this lion’s roar Ooh. Like, is just like so much better than that judgment for two seconds.

Like just let it go.

Jaclyn: Absolutely. Yeah. And it’s, I’m always trying to give permission for people just to fully allow that to come through. Because if you hold back, or I always say like, I don’t want you to feel like you held back and then you wish you’d done more. You know, if you have to do it in your room a couple times, first away from people.

But yeah, then once you step into your authenticity and get around people, like just let her rip.

Quianna: Yeah, let it go. Oh my gosh. So one question I love to ask every guest, Jacqueline, what is one key tip that you wish you knew sooner or something you’d love to share with entrepreneurs today?

Jaclyn: Ah, this is a tough one because there’s been so many along the way, but I would say that one thing that encompasses it all is.

To surrender. I think the control, the fear of the future, the unknown is what keeps people stuck in sick. So for me, that means surrender to God. I just wake up, tells me what to do, and I go do it. You know? And I don’t question it, and I don’t worry about what tomorrow brings. I always know that he provides.

So surrender for whatever that looks like for you, I think is the best way for us to be peaceful and calm and truly live happily on this planet.

Quianna: So beautiful, and I love that. I love that. That’s the perfect little like cherry on top to this conversation. I love when our thoughts and our conversations can go full circle, right?

Like we started with trust, we started with stress, and I think truly surrendering. Surrendering to God, surrendering to just embracing life and letting things full like unfold before you, instead of feeling like you’re just. Control. When you’re not, you are not. God just laughs. Right? We know that.

Jaclyn: Yeah. Think about, oh my gosh. My pastor said the funniest thing last week. He was like, okay, your life is going about and you might like get surprises or anything, but God has never like, oh, ooh, I’m surprised that happened. He is like, I knew that was gonna happen. You know? He already knows. He already knows. So you don’t have to like try to guess, but you can’t hear his voice when you’re already trying to figure out what he’s gonna say.

Quianna: Yes. Or the way you want it. Right. Like way you have it planned.

Jaclyn: Yep. The way you want him to say it. Right. You have to be able to step back and say. Surrender.

Quianna: Oh my gosh. So beautiful. Well, thank you so much, Jaclyn, for your words of wisdom, your encouragement and your stories, your experiences, and literally creating the release method.

This is just, it’s so exciting and I’m just so grateful to chat with you, and I cannot wait to continue this friendship and these connections. I’m just so grateful for you.

Jaclyn: Same. Thank you so much for all you do. You definitely shine bright and are definitely an angel of the earth.

Quianna: Oh my gosh. You’re amazing.

Thank you. Have a beautiful day, and can’t wait to go on the next hike soon.

Jaclyn: Yes, absolutely. Talk to you soon.

Quianna: I knew this conversation was going to be epic and it was even better than I imagined. Lately, I’ve been realizing how important it is to share our stories, embrace our authenticity, and drown out the noise of social media to find true alignment.

I’m so grateful you could join us today. If you find yourself with a need for an adventure and just wanna climb a mountain to scream at the top of it, let’s do it. Literally, just text me if you have my number or slide into my dms ’cause I would love. To go on an adventure with you and just whew to scream.

I highly recommend reaching out to Jaclyn if you’re hosting a retreat, planning a conference, or an event coming up soon. She not only has this incredible practice to share, but her energy and her presence are beautiful. I find that when I connect with friends and business besties that are in full alignment, it’s contagious.

Not so I can align myself with their callings or their beliefs, but to find proof that success comes after we surrender. When I see ambitious women following their heart and makes it even more obvious that I need to listen to mine and take action towards those goals. Thank you for joining the chat today.

I am so lucky to do life and business with you. Ooh. I just love you so much. If you have a friend that may be feeling lost or spinning their wheels and would find this episode inspiring, please share with them. It’s a joy and an honor to connect with you. ’cause here’s the thing, I know good people and good people know good people with every share, every review and every type of tiny engagement.

I’m doing a happy dance over here. You are incredible, my love. Sometimes the world feels too big to make changes, but to one person, you can change their whole world. Please make time to pause. Listen and connect with yourself and your higher power. I am cheering for you and only want the best for you.

Can’t wait to connect next week. Ooh, this mindset series has been so fun. Oh my gosh. Okay. I love you. Bye. That’s a wrap on another episode of Quianna Marie Weekly. Thank you so much for your listenership and support. You can find the resources and show notes for this episode and more at QuiannaMarie.com/podcast, I’d be honored if you’d show your support by leaving a review and rating on your favorite podcast app.

Until next time, keep on on dancing.

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