What if your closet holds the key towards reaching your goals? In todayâ€™s episode, I have the honor of introducing you to Dulce Badillo, image style expert and personal stylist. Shifting Your Energy with Fashion. Weâ€™re chatting about fashion trends, capsule wardrobes, and the power of decluttering your closet. Weâ€™re also diving into how you can use fashion to find your confidence, enhance your brand, and feel worthy both inside and out.Â
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When you have nothing to wear (2:04)
Staples to keep in your closet (5:47)
Shifting your energy through confidence (10:32)
Elevating your brand through style (15:54)
The transformation after working with a stylist (19:24)
Upleveling your wardrobe when youâ€™re on a budget (26:16)
Where Dulce gets her confidence (30:51)
Key tip from Dulce (38:20)
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If you’re tired of playing small, struggling to get closer to your highest self, maybe you’re playing tug of war with your self image because you’re proud of where you come from working through the messy middle, and have your eyes on the future version of yourself. We all have big dreams and goals while juggling our wants and needs. Sometimes we just need a boost of confidence and five seconds of bravery to create magic. What if I told you the first step to getting closer to your goals may just be waiting for us in our closet.
Today I have the honor of introducing you to Dulce, my iconic, timeless and fashionable soul sister. Yes, we’ll be chatting about fashion trends, capsule wardrobes and the power of decluttering your closet. But we’ll also be revealing energetics finding your confidence, self love and acceptance, clothing that fits well and jewelry that makes us feel sparkly can completely enhance our moods and transform our energy. But none of those feelings can ever truly be received unless we feel powerful, iconic and worthy from the inside. And also reminds us to take up space and stand out authentically. Please welcome d’Orsay, our image style expert and personal stylist.
Welcome to Quianna Marie Weekly, a podcast for creatives who love to celebrate wins big or small by dancing in the kitchen photographers who are excited to serve their clients and friends who are ready to chase really, really big dreams. You can find all of the resources mentioned in this episode at QuiannaMarie.com/podcast.
Join me as I share weekly motivation, chat about growing pains, finding genuine connections and celebrating your wins through the lens of a photographer at heart. Come join me for a dance party. Ready loves though. Alright, alright. Welcome Dorothy. I’m so so honored that you can be here with us today.
Hi, Kiana. Thank you so much for having me.
Yes. Oh, my gosh, well, it’s an honor. And let’s just dive into these questions they have. So I would love to know, what are some ways that we can elevate our Look, when we feel like we never had anything cute to wear?
That’s a great question. This is the problem that all of us have, right? We want to look better, we want to dress better. My thing is just from the get go, I feel that we are very hard on ourselves within our bodies, with how we look with how we feel like we’re never at a place where we want to be physically. And so let’s start with feeling good about our bodies first and embracing the best qualities of our bodies. What is your favorite part of your body? Is it your legs is it you know, your your arms, whatever it is, I would say to show off more of that. And essentially the best parts of yourself learn how to dress, to your body shape to your body style, and start there.
Another way is to I would say start with the closet of basics. Let’s not go deep into the trends. I know that trends are moving really fast right now. And there are so many new things every single day on social media like now this is a new trend, whether it’s makeup, nail polish clothes. But start with the classic wardrobe, what is the vibe that you want to achieve?
What is the feeling that you want to you want to be boho, you want to be classic, chic, and invest in pieces that are going to build a foundation in your closet, a color palette pieces that are going to last for a really long time first, before we can start adding like the trendy pieces and the pieces that are going to just come and go.
When you are leveling up your wardrobe, you want to be able to have something to wear at all times. And if we buy 20 pieces that is not going to be feasible. So focus on classics and quality over quantity. It’s not even about how much clothes you have. Because we only wear 20% of what’s in our closet. It’s more about what we actually wear. So maybe even doing a closet edit, going through your closet cleaning out some of that energy, removing some items in there because we hold on to so many pieces in our closet that are just taking up space that are just reminding us of the body that we once had. And we’re waiting.
We’re telling ourselves, oh, I’m keeping these things for when I fit back into them. And so you’re setting up yourself you’re setting yourself up for failure because you are holding on to something that no longer represents who you are currently in this in this present moment. So I would start there.
Yeah, I love that reminder and I love how you mentioned like releasing that energy like I actually felt that were we do we hold on to some things hoping that we’re gonna squeeze into them one day or there are so many items of clothing that you know we have emotional ties to and so I can see that almost being a headache when you you know, and I haven’t noticed this too when I’m going through my laundry or I’m going through my clothes. I really only go through about maybe two loads of laundry and I’m washing the same clothes over and over again.
Right Do you notice that? You have your rotation? Yeah. Oh my gosh. So please share with us it like in your best with your best advice. What are some of the staples that every woman should have in their closet? I know you mentioned some classic and investing in some nice pieces that we can work anywhere can you like I want to unpack that a little bit and share what you mean by that.
Yes. What I mean what’s the what staples is? We have this rotation you know I always say you will always want to have a week to two weeks worth of clothes in your closet that’s within your rotation. And and you can style 10 pieces within those 10 pieces you can create all these different looks so one of them will be a really great pair of denim. Something that is modern denim nowadays.
They come and go out of style. It’s not like before where we would hold on to denim for a really long time and that would be in style for a really really long time. Now there are certain cuts that are in style. So right now like a straight a straight leg would be a perfect kind of denim and then just find a brand that fits your style. There are so many brands out there with so many different styles. I know good American has it’s all size inclusive and and they have some great denim there. So have a have a great pair of denim if you want to do blue denim and a black denim.
That’s one one piece right there. Then you want to have a really nice button button down shirt like a white button down shirt collar. You know have that classic look with the denim and the white. The white button down shirt that’s already a look right there. Then you want to have some body suits or some tank tops that are going to allow you to wear what that denim because we can wear the denim several times a week right but just we can rotate the the tops and then you want to add a couple of more dressy tops like maybe some color tops or some striped tops and some dressy tops.
So let’s say a blouse, a blouse for your work meetings, your zooms when you’re going out. You always want to also have a dress, a nice stable classic dress. If it’s summer you want to have something that’s going to complement the seasons. And also a black little dress that’s something that you should always have in your closet something that’s going to fit you very nicely that’s going to hug your body very nicely or or fit your best assets to to your liking. And you always want to have a great pair of sneakers, some dress shoes, if you don’t like heels, you can have a kitten heel, but just some really nice pair of heels. They don’t have to be super high some sandals. And there are a couple of other things I’m kind of blanking out right now. But to start off let’s just start there.
Oh I would say a pair of work pants. So some trousers, a really nice pair whether it’s a neutral color gray, neutral like a beige color, or black and you can wear your blouses, your work boxes, your tank tops, body suits or your white button up tops with that. So those are kind of like the must haves you want to be able to have that in rotation. You know a really nice maxi dress something that fits you really nice and the key is you want to get rid of the noise in your closet you you go in there and there’s so many things and it really is very difficult to get rid of things that really is the like you said we have this emotional tie to it. But when you get rid of things you’re able to see all the pieces that you have and the pieces that you can actually wear oh yeah I
love this and I feel like this is a great kind of statement across the board right? So I love how you mentioned like every woman needs these it doesn’t matter what size you are, doesn’t matter what industry you’re in like these are just staples that you can mix and match all week long. And and I love that and I I love that you also have i feel like i I’m trying to explain this because I do know you personally as my friend and As a mentor to in so many different ways, I feel like there’s this energy exchange with clothing right like to see it also like to see you walk into a room, any room, whether it’s looking so cute and fly for pickleball or for our mentoring sessions, or like our masterminding stuff, or even for events, like you have this confidence within you.
I know that it all you know, you’re in the shell of your beautiful clothing. But you do have this confidence with your step. And I know that your style helps with that. So I would love to kind of dig a little bit deeper, let’s like, open up the doors of a closet and share how how you can elevate and uplevel your brand. So we feel like we got like a really good kind of like capsule wardrobe. Now, I’d love to talk more about how you can elevate your perceived value with that clothing and with your confidence. Let’s chat about that.
I love that you said how walking into a room like you can see that energy. And that’s really important. We we struggle within ourselves in being confidence. We have to find that within ourselves. So when we’re walking into a room, I feel like so often we’re always worried about what everybody else is going to think we’re very self conscious. Where do I look? Okay, my dress code? Am I dressed enough? Am I too casual? What are people thinking about me. And so I want to really reflect that back into you.
Before you walk into an event, you always want to just sit there and like maybe like take a deep breath. Really Collect yourself really gather yourself and your thoughts and your feelings because the key is to walk in confidently any regardless of what you’re wearing, is, is really being confident within yourself. It’s really the energy of what what it is because that comes from within that comes with the walk the step, the we’re holding your head up high, the way you’re walking, how you’re talking to people. And it really comes from a place within. And I know all of us are very hard and I wasn’t always the most confident person. Growing up, I struggle with this, I struggled with confidence.
I feel like this is something that all women struggle with. And instead of looking out into what are people going to think about me is focusing in on your energy and, and thinking to yourself, what is the best person that I can be today and offer that into this world and reflect that inwardly outwardly. And also secondly, I would say build build trust with yourself. Again, I wasn’t always the most confident person I always doubted myself I always I was I’m a recovered people pleaser. On it, I want it to be liked so much, you know so about you just want people to like me, and, and that’s people are gonna like you, when you are yourself, people are going to gravitate you when you are being you, when you when you stop focusing on that needy energy of thinking that you want to be liked to being authentic, and to showing up because you’re in a self trust mode, then that’s when that confidence starts oozing out.
It takes practice, it takes time. It really is about getting to know yourself on a deeper level. And building that trust within keeping promises to yourself. And just really starting from there building that and then when you incorporate clothes, I have this thing where I always walk out the door feeling like I’m a millionaire. Like I want to feel like you know, my clothes, you know is from all over. And it’s not like super expensive. But I always walk out feeling like a million bucks. And thinking like if I was a millionaire, how would I feel and how would I be acting. And so when I walk into a room, I kind of have that essence of like, inside of me of, of not lack but abundance of like, this is luxury.
This is life I am living to the fullest. And it’s a mindset. It’s a mindset of just really embodying that next level of yourself. And then you’ll see how people will start seeing you that way people will start putting you in this box of like, oh she looks really confident she knows what she’s really doing because now you’re trusting yourself and you’re being guided from a place of abundance and trust and self self awareness than a place from lack and neediness and and scarcity and a I’m wanting to be liked and, and kind of like providing that feeling, you know? And I mean, it, we’ve all been there, we’ve all been in a place where we that confidence just isn’t there. But it comes with that self trust.
Yes, I love that. So now, so let’s say we, we all are working on our confidence, right we can, we can change our essence and change our aura just by imagining being a millionaire, right like, right like if we, it takes the same amount of effort to put on leggings and an oversized sweatshirt as it would to put on cute trousers and a nice fitted top right? Like, I feel like there are so many mix and matches and try this instead of that. And that really can elevate our confidence. So let’s say we’re working on our confidence and we got this, we’re walking into rooms feeling really good, no matter what price tag is on our clothing, what are some ways that we can elevate our brand, like we can kind of have that perceived value, and our almost like expertise and that professionalism with our brand, I’d love to talk more about that,
Oh, I love that. I do have clients that get styled for brands and photoshoots. And a lot of them want it to be classy and elegant, and really showcase their true authentic selves. And I feel like when you feel confident within yourself, and when you feel confident inside your skin, then that’s gonna reflect outwards. With branding, I would say the colors are very important. The branding colors you the photographer is very important. The backdrop is going to be key where where it’s done. So making the branding elevated. And creating a look for yourself. One of the things that I’d love to do is create a lookbook where I put all these links together for you.
It helps you see kind of like the direction that your branding is going. But I also get inspiration from Pinterest, from Instagram, from other places. So we get we pull inspiration to see what is the vibe that we want. So you want to always start with the vibe, you always want to start with an energy like this is the energy that I want for this photoshoot. This is the direction that I want to go.
This I’m very inspired by these pictures, pulling up pictures that inspire you, and kind of taking it from there and making it into your own, adding your own personal authenticity and twist and personality to that. So I think being authentic, obviously is one of the biggest things when it comes to your brand. Because trust is very important in order to call those clients and you want people to trust you and and know that you’re providing a service that you know for them.
You want to make sure that you’re you’re polished you’re on brand with your colors, and that you look your best and I think it starts within, with within inside when you are at the photoshoot of music or your photoshoot, you know, like throw on some tunes. Like, relax a little bit, move your body shake a little bit, dance a little bit to get into that energy of feeling relaxed and and having that fun energy. When you aren’t having your photoshoot that’s very important that it translates through those photos, and your outfit. The energy that’s all of that to tie together your photographer, your hair, your makeup, you know is the clothes, nicely pressed and steamed is it on brand.
All of that comes into consideration and that’s why it’s important to hire a stylist. You know the right style is the right makeup artists, the right photographer, all all those people come together and create magic together. But you are bringing yourself your authenticity, your energy into that photoshoot. And we’re all coming together for the same purpose.
Yes. Oh my gosh. Well, I feel like you’ve definitely dropped a whole bunch of golden nuggets here, where we definitely have to go back and like talk more about this this Oh, no, I, I love chatting about the law of attraction. I know when us girls get together we talk about, you know the energy and how to create magnetic experiences, not just from within, but also to create these experiences for those around us. Right. And I can truly appreciate how your work is so much more deeper than just fashion right? Like you’re not just helping pick out the next you know, perfect denim or the perfect blouse like you really do create this experience with your clients. So they’ll say hey, I would love to chat more about the transformation that your clients are making after they work with you with their style.
Yes. I feel like it’s different with every single person. It can be emotional because getting rid of things you know, we always start off with a closet edit And you whether it’s online or in person, getting rid of things, it’s very hard people, people get attached to their personal belongings. And it can be very emotional, because now you’re stepping into this new level different version of you. And that’s great. But you must be willing to let go of the things that no longer serve you. And, and I mean, it’s hard, like I have a whole bin full of clothes, I don’t even know what to do with it. And I’m always donating clothes.
I know that I need to get rid of more clothes. And this is with everyone, we all need to get rid of clothes, we have so much clothes in our closet that we’ve had for years. And if we can just get rid of that, that’s going to help you create new energy. Anytime you get rid of anything, anytime you remove anything from your space, whether it’s relationships, friends, work, whatever it is, it allows new things to come in. And so this is the same thing with clothes. So it can be in the beginning, it can be a little emotional, it could be a little a little like it’s going to, it’s going to trigger a couple of things within yourself.
Then when you are getting styled, and we’re when we’re doing the shopping, when we’re doing the styling, then you’re able to come into this new phase of really discovering new parts of yourself that you didn’t know existed. So the shopping part, that that is very interesting to me. And this is why I got into fashion because I you know, I was I worked retail, and I saw the transformation that it made in women, when I was working in retail, just how when they would put on a piece of clothing.
I noticed that having a stylist allows you to try on clothes that you wouldn’t normally try on for yourself. And so now you’re looking at yourself, and you’re putting on clothes that you never really thought that would fit you or would look good on you. Now you you are stepping into this different personality, or you’re opening your eyes to a new different version of you. That is going to stretch you right there, that having the courage to wear those things is going to stretch you trusting the process is going to just stretch you. And sometimes people are like full on like, let’s do it, like I want to really just go out there and like take it to the max, like, let’s just go all in.
Then there are people that are a little bit more reserved, and they’re not ready, they’re just not ready. Like I don’t know, if I could wear that, you know, I Oh, it’s just too much. And so it really is at what level you aren’t in life. And, you know, I’m all for it. I’m here to guide you through that process, regardless of where you’re at. I’m here to push you outside of your comfort zones, I’m going to be very honest with you, I’m going to tell you the truth of what does look good or what doesn’t look good. And I’m going to tell you the truth when you really need to be pushed out and stretched. So a lot of people think is just like something that’s very, you know, superficial and vanity metrics.
It goes much deeper than that. It really is about trusting who you are and trusting the process. And really just when you put on that closure, stepping into this new version of your future self and it allows you to with any any type of growth, to see yourself in a different light and show up differently. Clothes does that it really has a way of transforming how you feel inside when you work something and it feels really good when somebody comes out of the fitting room.
It’s like this light, you know, Halo is around them and you hear music like there’s angels around. And that’s that moment where it’s like, oh, like Like you’ve arrived. That’s that’s the feeling that I want for everyone and to understand that everybody has that power to just really be that main character.
Just show up as the main character be that main character in your life. We only have one life. When you feel good when you are showing up and dressing your body. In clothes that represent the best version of you. You’re going to that’s going to start reflecting on your mood, your personality, your energy, when you feel good. That’s going to be other people are going to feel that too. You’re going to spread that energy. And if you’re wearing the same outfits, you know the same two outfits every single day, the same leggings and the same T shirt every single day. Maybe it’s time to just really just take it up a notch. Like push yourself outside of that comfort zone. Try something new.
Oh yeah, well I even know personally to like even just having these worked So, as a photographer and content generator, I’m out a lot, right? Like I’m getting out there, I’m actually working in I say the field, but really, it’s in photo studios or at people’s homes or at event spaces. And when I’m working home, I work home alone a lot. And I know just putting, like literally putting on a bra, getting dressed up, it elevates you in so many different ways. I just think that is just so powerful. And you’re right, like, we have these tools in our closet to help us transform that energy. And I just love that you’re providing that for your clients, too.
Yeah, I love what you said tools, it is a tool. It’s just like everything else, our laptop is a tool for us to find success. Clothing is a tool clothing is a tool for us to find our confidence and to discover pieces of ourselves. Use it as a tool. Don’t look at it as like, my going to look good. Am I? Do I look funny? And Do I look fat, use it as a tool to enhance the way you feel and trust the process. Push yourself outside your comfort, comfort zone, that’s the goal is to really push yourself all the time to just to just try new things. When you’re getting dressed.
Yes. So what advice would you give to someone, let’s say we’re ready to uplevel we’re ready to make some investments. But we’re broke. Like, let’s say we don’t have a lot of money to invest in styling and investing in a whole new wardrobe. Where should we start first? So for these, like business sisters that are killing it, and we’re in this like growth mode, we’re ready to expand. And maybe it’s just one piece of clothing or one piece of jewelry, like where should we start? If maybe, you know, we’re in that growing spurt to you know, don’t have a lot of money to spend, where should we go? Yeah,
that’s a great question. And it’s very valid. I know that a lot of a lot of people are there. You know, I would say start with your closet. We are clauses our gold mines, we have so many things in our closet right now that we feel like oh, I don’t have anything to wear. But the only things are our closet that that goes untouched. That we can make outfits from what you have in your closet, you can create new looks and style them differently. It’s hard to see it from your perspective, because when you see your calls it all the time, it’s kind of hard to put the pieces together.
But sometimes getting outside help and having them come into your house and and putting these looks together or getting somebody else’s advice, getting a stylus advice. It can really help you open your eyes to the possibilities that are sitting in your closet right now. Our closets are like our brains, they are all over the place. We have so much stuff in there and cleaning it out.
You know, if there’s not enough money, you can start with your closets, clean it out, get rid of the things that have holes that are dirty, that you haven’t worn in years that have stains, get rid of those things because you can’t wear that anymore. But there are pieces in your closet waiting to be discovered waiting to be styled in different ways. And they’re just sitting in there. So start there, start transforming yourself with the things that you already own. And then once you start building yourself up, then you can start one by one investing in pieces. Having the closet of your dreams doesn’t all come at one time. Like you I can’t We can’t go out shopping and then all of a sudden, boom, you have your closet of your dreams. That takes time that takes time to find the right pieces.
You build that over time and you build that confidence over time and you build that knowledge and what works for you over time is fashion style. really creating a look that’s going to fit you best is also going to take time it’s practice just like anything else you got to you got to do it over and over to get good at it. So if somebody is struggling like I really want to like hire a stylist and I really want to go shopping, but I can’t right now start with your closets. They are gold mines. I would go there. It’s the best place to start, like all of our closets have so many things in them. All
of them. Yeah, yeah. And hidden things right? Like yeah, even just like I’ve seen where you’ve done things to where you’ve taken a high waisted skirt and taken like a graphic tee and just tucked it in. Right? Like just just there’s so much versatility that we can play with and it’s already in our closets. And I just think that’s amazing that we can be very resourceful. Like that’s how we are as business owners. Sometimes we can be really scrappy, we make magic out of nothing, right?
We just like pull it out of thin air. And I love that you’re giving us the confidence to just open up that closet door like start decluttering just like our minds like you mentioned, I love that like I know what my closet is dirty and I have boots shoved in the bottom of it. And, you know, things are exploding out of the drawers like, I just need a nap. Like I just like, I’m too overwhelmed. And it starts in our closet, it starts in our home. Yes. So I love yes and
organizing your closet, you’d be impressed with how many things you would be able to find in there. Once you get rid of things. And it’s organized a little, then you’re like, oh, wow, I actually have a lot of things to wear. I didn’t realize this I have. I’ve never worn these things. And so it’s you’d be certainly surprised yourself with how many things we have in our closet and how we feel. We live in a society where we feel like we need more. And the reality is we don’t need more. You have everything you need already. We all do.
Oh my gosh, such good information. Thank you d’Orsay. So I would I would love to know, where does your confidence come from? Because I know we mentioned competence a bit earlier. And I do truly believe like we mentioned before, like it’s the energy exchanges, but competence, and it’s so much more than just our clothing and like what we’re zipping up and what we’re buttoning up our shirt, right, like, so where are you inspired from? And where does your confidence come from?
I think working in retail and being in style being in fashion for so long, there was a common theme. The common theme was that nobody liked themselves, and nobody liked their bodies. This is something that just I heard over and over. And I still hear over and over again, when it comes to getting dressed. And when it comes to ourselves when we are talking about ourselves. It’s always the negative first, oh, I’m not where I need to be, or I need to lose weight before you style me.
I used to be a lot skinnier, I was never this size. Or you know, I’m normally a size four, you know, I’m just a size eight right now. Because I’ve been, you know, going through this or whatever. Like, we’re never no one is ever satisfied where they are at. And it made me realize that we were all having the same issues. We’re all thinking the same thing about our bodies. And including myself, I was never happy. I was never in a place where I felt fully secure and confident. Once I realized that everybody felt this way. I’m like, what if we start focusing on the things that we do like about ourselves?
What if we start focusing on the thing, our favorite parts? about ourselves? And what if I point these things out to people so they can see what I see. Because it’s so easy to when somebody asks us about ourselves, it’s so easy to go to the negative first, like there’s just programming within all of us that, especially as women, that we have to be the Certain Way? And what if we just start focusing on our favorite things that we like about ourselves, like, for me, it’s my legs, I love my legs, you know, I love showing off my legs, I love my arms for other people, there’s their hair, their face, you know, whatever it is, show those pieces off. And I have this one question in my questionnaire when I’m when I start working with somebody, and I always ask what is your favorite part of your body?
Let’s enhance that, let’s show that off a little bit more, you know, I realized that confidence comes from really just liking yourself. And a lot of us weren’t liking ourselves. And that’s when I realized I’m like, You know what, like, we’re being very hard on ourselves, like harder than what we actually need to be like we don’t need to do, we don’t need a goal there. Because instead of focusing on the things that we don’t like about ourselves, let’s turn that around.
Let’s focus on the things we do like about ourselves. And I started just focusing more on becoming a little bit secure, because I heard all these things every single day. And I realized like, even though I feel those things, and I and I agree with like us, like always going to the negative, like let’s turn that around, let’s, let’s focus on the positive. Yeah, let’s build on the things that we do like about ourselves and trusting ourselves and trusting our bodies. This is our body. This body carries us. This is the body that we were born with it. It loves us and you know, we we walk in it every single day. And so let’s be kind to it. And when I realized that I I wanted to really just be nicer to myself.
I started developing that confidence of just building that self trust. Like I would look back at pictures from 10 years and I’m like, oh, like if I knew how good I hadn’t then of how skinny I was by I was so insecure, in my mind, I thought I was so fat. Now, I can be that person and not look back 10 years from now, and then tell myself the same thing, let’s just be nice to ourselves, let’s stop beating ourselves up that is that’s not serving anybody. And let’s just start being confident, because that’s all this is all we have this the present the very this moment right here, we can’t wait till we get to a certain point or, or when I do this when I when I lose 10 pounds, or when I get my nose job or when I get boobs? When I something, you know, it’s always waiting for something. And this is the body this is it right here. This is it. We’re gonna love it. We’re gonna love it. And, and, and come from a place of love, instead of, of judging ourselves.
Yeah, well, I love all this information. And I feel like a lot of us can relate to this, especially as we are loving and respecting our own bodies and our own self, as well as creating that image for our daughters and our nieces and all these young women. And I really, really love your reframe. I feel like I need to kind of repeat this maybe in a different way, or like in my own words, but I love how you change the like, the definition of confidence isn’t being the best. It’s been the kindest, and I just think that is the coolest kind of reframe where, you know, you walk into a room, like you mentioned before, it’s like, it’s not about what I look like what people are thinking of me. It’s like, I know, I’m awesome.
You walk into a room and you’re like, I have so much love to give, I have this plate of snacks over here that I know people are going to love you know, and not even saying you have to bring anything to be loved. But like that’s just how my brain works, right? But like it’s true. Like if you can reframe it, rephrase it to share kindness and acceptance for who you are in your own skin that is going to radiate so much confidence.
Absolutely, absolutely. Quianna, you have that, like I love seeing you in your essence, girl, you dance, you’re always full of joy. That really is the key, you know, we all want to be happy. When you walk into a room, and you have that joy inside of you, and you’re dancing, that’s attractive, that’s beautiful, that’s magnetic. And I feel like when we walk into a room, we’re always scared. We’re always, you know, thinking about what how we look.
But let’s turn that around, let’s it’s the energy that you’re in, and the energy that you’re putting out, if you can focus on love and joy, and kindness that is magnetic, and that love for yourself, that joy for yourself, you know that I love myself so much, that this is who I am, you know, and you have that, and I love watching that from you. You know, it’s, it’s, I love my friends, you know, all of us have this. This, you know, everybody has their their own personalities, their own beauty, you know, and all of us are so different in so many ways. And it’s beautiful. It’s beautiful to experience that and share that within each other.
Yeah. Thank you so much. I received that. Thank you. Oh, my goodness, well, Inc. So in closing, I love asking every guest of Kiana Marie weekly to share a key tip. So if you have a key tip for entrepreneurs, or maybe specifically just women in general, what is something that you wish you knew sooner? Oh,
I wish I knew a lot of things sooner. But one of one of the one of the things is exactly what we talked about is, is that everybody is so worried about themselves and not being enough and not being in a place where they want to be. And everybody is going through the same thing. There’s all of our experiences are shared. And we all have common ground in not ever feeling enough. Not ever feeling pretty enough, not ever being confident enough not being popular enough.
Not being seen not feeling not being heard. And I just want everybody to know that that is available to you. When you give yourself permission to be all those things. You don’t have to wait for anybody else to do that. You can grant yourself those things. And that really just comes with just accepting yourself as you are right now and loving who you are being authentic being new. That really is the key right there. And I wish I knew that sooner because, you know, I was a people pleaser.
I was stuck in that mindset. But when once you get to that point of just being who you are, I think I think that’s, that’s something that I wish everybody would know. Like, just our i least for me. I wish I knew that sooner. And I’m glad that I know that now because I can share that with people. But yeah, I would say that.
Yeah, no, that’s amazing. Oh my gosh, well, I appreciate this conversation so much. I feel like I’m ready to go clean out my closet. I’m ready to step into rooms and just embody lead a millionaire and carrying myself as if that’s already happened. It’s it’s abundantly mine already. And so I love that mindset shifts. And so tell us they’ll say how can we work with you? Like, how can we connect with you? How can we become BFFs with you online and maybe even do some styling with you?
Yes, go to my Instagram. I spend most of my time on Instagram or Tik Tok. I know we love some Tik Tok over here. First, so my Instagram is where I hang out, you can schedule a free style consult with me, and we can discuss your needs and what it is that you need the most and how we can work together. So you can find me on Instagram or just reach out to me send me a DM like let’s talk let’s chat. Well, you know, asked me a question. So yeah, Instagram is the best place to go. And yeah, I truly believe walk into a room with that main character energy. Step out like you’re a millionaire. It’s about that main character, like be that main character in your life.
Yes, main character energy babes. Let’s go. Oh, my gosh. Well, thank you so much. They’ll say can’t wait for our next mastermind and our next pickleball would you call it game or session?
But yeah, thank you so much. I appreciate you.
Me too. Thank you, babe.
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