You are worthy of sharing your voice and your boundaries. That is the message that I have received time and time again from my neighbor and today’s Connection Call guest, Terina Maldonado. Terina is a religious transition coach who is here to remind us that choosing to break cycles and set boundaries is a decision that will have immense impact on both our lives and our businesses. 

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Finding the courage to speak your truth (3:09)

The fear of backlash or confrontation (9:12)

Creating boundaries to enhance your relationships (11:48)

Religious transition coaching (19:27)

Breaking cycles and discovering a whole new world (23:09)

How to create boundaries with ourselves (27:46)

Connect with Terina (34:42)

One Key Tip from Terina (36:43)

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Quianna Marie
It was the week that Emma and I moved into our brand new home here in Arizona, and we were touring our clubhouse and the pool and the gym. And as soon as we turned the corner in the gym, the door flung open and this sweet little fiery redhead, opened up her arms and shrieked.

Welcome to the neighborhood neighbors! While I looked at her with a smile, of course, and my mom actually thought that she was a worker that she was one of the welcome committee, I guess, here in our neighborhood. And Trina was in fact, not she does not work at the clubhouse, but she is an incredible neighbor. She has a big heart. Her and her husband are very involved in all of our neighborhood activities. And she has been such a great friend. We go on walks together, we have shared coffee dates and workshops together. And Trina is someone that I could not imagine my life without her. Without this move to Arizona. Serena not only has an incredible business where she helps you live the life you want, not the one you’re pressured to live.

Terina has helped me grow exponentially with creating my own boundaries. She’s the type of friend that will message me and ask to hang out. But then two seconds later send a text and say it’s okay if you say no, which is exactly what a lot of us need sometimes. And I just appreciate her friendship with these connection calls. It’s so important to me to introduce you to my real life friends, the real humans the real influencers that are impacting my days, every single day, and Trina Maldonado is one of those I am so incredibly excited to introduce you to Terina.

Before we start today’s heartfelt, emotional and inspirational episode, it’s important to mention that part of this conversation includes references to child abuse. If you’re not in a place to listen, we completely understand Terina has incredible resources and education around speaking up and living life on your own terms. Be sure to connect for more. Let’s dive right in.

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Quianna Marie
All right, all right. Welcome to the party, Terina!

Terina
Hi Quianna. Thank you so much for having me today. It’s lovely to join you and your audience. So fun.

Quianna Marie
Oh my gosh, this is a way way long, overdue connection call with you, Trina. I am just so grateful for you, you are an inspiration you crush, there’s just so many amazing things I can say about you. So let’s just dive right into the conversation. It’s really important for me to introduce my real life influencers. And Terina. Since I moved to Arizona, you have been one of my original Arizona angels. So thank you,

Terina
thank you, it’s been such a delight to know you both personally and professionally. Because you inspire me in both arenas.

Quianna Marie
Oh my gosh, well, let’s dive in. I feel like you are a wealth of knowledge. And you are such a supporter for everyone finding their own voices standing up for things that feel right to them. And I would love for you to share your experience with sharing your voice and standing up for something that didn’t feel right.

Terina
So I have the story that I love to share. It’s been a handful of years ago, and my family and I we were invited to go to a pre release screening of a children’s movie. And in the movie, there was some content that I felt was harmful, like sending harmful messages for kids and potentially grooming them for sexual abuse. And I, at the time with my job had like such a super, super small audience, which I think for the people listening is important to remember as well. I’m talking like just a couple 1000 people and this was like old school before social media was huge.

This was via, like, email. I mean, social media was there, but my audience was mostly through my email newsletter. And so I thought I’m not the right person to say anything. Surely somebody else will have seen this and we’ll say something and so the morning that reviews of the movie were released, I sat down and I’m scrolling through review after review, looking for any mention of sexual grooming and Yeah, and, and it wasn’t there. And so I thought, well, one of two things is happening either nobody else saw it and realized this or nobody else is speaking up and alerting parents to this content in this movie.

I sat down and I wrote a review. And I shared that the lens through which I’m able to see this is that I’m a survivor of child abuse. And I shared that, you know, if you choose to see this movie, let this be a perfect opportunity to have really important conversations. What I didn’t do was say, Nobody goes see this movie. I didn’t say shame on Hollywood shame on this director, shame on this actor, like I simply said, this is here, be aware, make an informed decision.

This is how you can use this to teach your kids. My article went viral in the most literal sense of the word like with my website receiving like 5 million views within a week. And it was on all major news and media outlets. And the result was that the movie was pulled from the theater to be edited after it had been released, which has never happened before sense with a children’s movie. This experience really, really showed me that it doesn’t matter the size of your audience, it doesn’t matter the size of your influence. What matters is having the courage to speak the truth.

Do it in a way that allows people to take it the way that they need to and to not. I don’t know, I think sometimes we get too. I don’t want to say too passionate, but the way that we present things can be a little too strong sometimes. So I think sometimes the way we communicate can be almost as important as the message that we share.

Quianna Marie
Wow, what an impact you made for our community, for our nation for the world by calling something out. And I love how you mentioned too, that you weren’t pointing fingers. You weren’t directly saying this is inappropriate. And this is bad and shunning people, right? Like we’re canceled culture is so toxic, you know, like that can be really scary. And the fact that you just shed light on this, and you did share your opinion, but I loved how it was threaded by this is the way it is. And I feel like that had a completely different response directly. I

Terina
feel like the response would have been very different had I come out and been like, we all need to boycott this movie. And this movie producer and this actor, like the response would have been very different versus me coming out and saying, Hey, parents, there’s this really concerning content, I want you to be aware. So you can make an informed decision before you take your kids and leaving the decision up to the individual.

Quianna Marie
Right, right and not not putting shame on anybody and not making others feel accountable, like on your behalf. Right? Like just sharing the information is beautiful. Oh my goodness, well, how did this feeling of bravery, and this realization that, hey, if I say something, and maybe that is just writing an article or right like, sometimes when we say speaking up, it doesn’t always mean using our voice. Sometimes we are typing something, sometimes we’re writing letters, right, or showing through our actions by not doing something. So how has this feeling of bravery really shifted and impacted your life today.

Terina
So it was really a catalyst for me, both personally and professionally, to really just solidify it, that My Voice Matters, my story matters. And not only does it matter for me, but that I can take what I’ve learned and the things that I have gained that have empowered me to be able to speak this way to help others be able to find their voices and be able to speak up in a way that helps to build bridges with people rather than

Quianna Marie
burn them. Oh my gosh, that is going to be a mic drop like graphic for us during your episode. I love how you’re sharing about giving grace for these these conversations that it doesn’t need to be a right like, listen to me, this is what I said this is what I believe therefore it’s true. It’s it’s bridging that gap and meeting people halfway. I think you said that so beautifully. Yeah, yeah.

Oh, my goodness. Well, what is your advice for someone, let’s say there’s a situation right? It could be in our home life. It could be in work, it could be with our children or you know, anything? What is your advice for someone that wants to speak up and make the change but may be a little nervous of the responses that that will be coming right?

Because I feel like even though we can feel so just in what we’re saying and how we’re feeling there is always that fear of backlash and just confrontation. So what is your advice for someone that needs to spark these changes? So

Terina
I always chuckle because I’m I bring it way back. So I think the place to start is with getting grounded in your own self love and self worth. Because regardless of where you’re speaking your truth, there are going to be people who disagree. And there may be people who decide to get confrontational or become troll holes, you know, like, those people are out there. And it’s a good thing that we have people who disagree with us because the world would be so boring otherwise.

But if you put yourself out there, and you’re not solid and sturdy in your knowledge that your worth is inherent, just because you exist, that you are worthy of love, and belonging, you’re worthy of owning and sharing your voice, simply because you’re you and that somebody else’s opinion of you does not lessen that in any way, then when that happens, it’s going to hit you a lot harder.

Versus when you go into it rooted in knowing that your worth is solid, loving yourself knowing that this is going to come, then you can navigate that more easily. Is it still going to sting? Will it still maybe hurt? Will it still be a little challenging to navigate? Yes. But when we’re prepared for that possible outcome, then it helps us navigate it much more clearly. And so really, when you’re thinking about, I want to speak up and I want to say something, scroll it back a little bit and just do some exercises to really get grounded in this self worth and your self love and know that you are going to be okay, regardless of what anybody says,

Quianna Marie
amazing. This is such a great reminder for every human like, I feel like this, this education that you’re sharing, doesn’t need to wait for entrepreneurship doesn’t need to wait for small business, right like this. This is the type of education that we should be teaching our children at a young age like could you imagine if our kids are if we learn these tools? way earlier in life?

Oh my gosh, it would be a different world trying with my three kids. I try. Yes, you are, and you are an incredible mama. So Terina, please share with us some ways that we can create boundaries. So I feel like you know, like, so I’m kind of like taking listeners through this journey where they have the competence to say something they’re so rooted in self love that no matter what anybody says, or how anybody treats them, they know that that is a reflection of them and not of themselves. Right. So like, I know, You’ve taught me that I like drop that in there. But what are some ways that we can create these boundaries where we feel safe? In our bubble?

Terina
Yes. So I think that it’s really important when we talk about boundaries, to note that boundaries are meant to enhance relationships. I think sometimes there’s this idea that boundaries are just meant to keep everything you don’t like out of your life. And yes, that can be part of your boundaries. But boundaries are not, the purpose is not to cut people out and weed everybody out of your life. It’s also to draw in the people that are going to enhance your life. So with boundaries, it’s not just saying I will not accept this boundaries is also asking for what you need. And so when you’re thinking about a situation where you may or may need to establish a boundary, it’s important to think, what do I want the outcome to be? What do I really what is the root of what I want to communicate? And what do I want the outcome to be? And so sometimes it can be asking somebody for something that you need, sometimes that can be saying, hey, I need this to not happen anymore.

I feel it’s very important to you mentioned the word grace before. And I think it’s so important to remember when you’re setting boundaries, that you even though it’s a good thing, are shifting the dynamic and whatever relationship this is. So so you’re setting a boundary with a family member. And this is new to both people. And so have a little grace, if they may be forget, but remind them, Grace does not mean that they forget and they crossed that boundary, and you’re like, Oh, this isn’t new for them. Okay, we’ll just let that slide. That’s not the having a healthy boundary. But having grace for them could be, oh, hey, I know that this is new that we talked about this. So I just wanted to remind you that I need XYZ, moving forward.

Thank you, you know, like having grace for them and saying that in that kind way to remind them that there’s it in the boundary established. Now if this continues repeatedly, then you may need to shift what your boundary is. But it’s important to establish these boundaries openly and communicate those because sometimes, too, we might think, Oh, I don’t like how this person treats me. So if they do this, then I’m going to do this and we’re having this conversation in our head, but we’re not communicating it with them. And I know Oh, personally, I would much rather hear what I need to change than just have this shift in my dynamic and be confused about what’s going on.

Clearly stating what your boundary is. And even why you need that, you know, like, it hurts me when you do XYZ. And so moving forward, I need to not or it makes me very uncomfortable when bla bla bla bla bla, or I love it so much when this happens, can we have more of this in our relationship? These are important to communicate and then have a little grace as you’re both both learning this new dynamic in the relationship.

Quianna Marie
Wow, I like I picked up so many golden nuggets here with this Serena. And I’m seriously and I love how you mentioned with grace that it actually like boundaries can be really scary. I feel like this is a new age kind of buzzword for a lot of us. I know. Firstly, yes, I know, for coaches and experts like you, this is not new, like you’ve you’ve been practicing this for a while, you’re very familiar with creating your own personal brand boundaries, as well as teaching others. But for a lot of us that are right, like we’re watching these tic TOCs we’re reading we’re going to therapy boundaries is a relatively new for us. And I feel like we’re we’re crushing and breaking some cycles, right? Like in our families, and in our own it feels like our DNA sometimes.

Absolutely. Yeah. And I love that you mentioned that it actually can be really great for strengthening relationships, because because I’ll be honest, like when I hear boundaries, or when I hear someone trying to make brown boundaries, the first thing I thought of is, well, okay, well, what are you cutting out of your life. And that’s not always true.

Sometimes they’re created, so you have a better capacity like so for example. And I know sometimes creating boundaries can be life changing, breaking these family cycles. But even for me, for example, I remember when my mom used to pick me up from the airport, after I was gone for, you know, either a weekend or sometimes I was gone for two or three weeks traveling for weddings and photoshoots and stuff. And I would come home and she would pick me up and she would just be buzzing, right she’s she’s ready to go get brunch, she wants to go stop at target on the way home.

For the first couple of times, I just did it because I was excited to see her. I was happy to be in her presence. And I was so grateful that she picked me up from the airport, then eventually I would just start to snap. And I just remember thinking I can’t do this anymore. Mom, like you have to take me straight home or I’m going to Uber like I can’t do this because I was at capacity.

I was exhausted, right. And once I explained that to her, of course, it wasn’t easy, because my mom was my mom, I love her to death. But like, you know, she’s very stuck in her ways and doesn’t understand different energy levels. Right? And so I think once I could express that to her, she was like, Okay, well, can we do dinner, you know, so now the new thing is, is I come home, I rest I shower, I really just take some time to decompress, and then just kind of like do some introverted thing.

Then I like come out of my dungeon and I’m happy, like I want to be around her. And so I think that’s just like one tiny example of an everyday life for someone dealing with a family member or a partner, or even a child where we have to create these, these boundaries. So we can really show up as our best self

Terina
lately. And I love that example so much because it is so simple. But what you did is strengthen your relationship. Because if you had continued in this cycle of her picking you up, and then you being burnt out and exhausted and then snapping at her that’s going to continue repeatedly damaging your relationship, versus you embraced and moved through that discomfort of having that difficult conversation.

Now, it’s a much better situation where you guys get to come home, you can enjoy the ride home, you get the space and time that you need, and then you can come back together and enjoy each other. And I think that the key right there is being able to embrace that discomfort. I think sometimes, especially if we’ve been raised in with people pleasing tendencies that we want to make people happy that we want to be kind, but we’re always supposed to be nice that facing that discomfort can be one of the biggest barriers or establishing boundaries. And so I love to tell people, If you feel uncomfortable, you’re doing it right.

Quianna Marie
That’s funny. That’s what I say for photoshoots too. And like I feel if it feels awkward, that means you’re doing great. Oh, I love that. Well, that was just like a tiny, kind of like I would call like trivial but like still a big deal for me, but kind of trivial in the scheme of life of creating boundaries and asking for what I need. And one thing that you are an expert in Terina is your religious transition coaching. So I would love to kind of like like crack open this can of worms like rip off The Band Aid and share why you’re so passionate about helping people with their religious, like concerns and like where they stand in life and where all this passion is rooted in.

Terina
So my husband and I actually are both born and raised in the same high demand religion. And we thankfully left together a handful of years ago. As I was just diving in the community of people who had left the same religion, I noticed a lot of similarities. A lot of things I was navigating a little bit more smoothly not to say that it wasn’t hard and devastating and difficult, but just a little bit more smoothly than some other people. And I realized that this was from a lot of the tools that I had learned, and gained over the years of therapy and self development and healing from the child abuse that I had experienced.

It just became very apparent to me that I had some tools and that I can help other people with those. One of the things that I’ve noticed as a universal thing, is just feeling very lost. And like you maybe aren’t even sure who you are, once you step out of the box of religion telling you exactly who you need to be. And so I love to help people discover who they are, for themselves to sit down and be like, Why do I believe the things that I believe?

Why do I have the goals that I have? Why do I have the values that I have, and discover what you want to do with those coming from a soul rooted place without the influence of what other people are telling you. And then to be able to communicate that with family and friends, as you are shifting into a person that’s more aligned with your authentic self, rather than the self that you have been?

Maybe performatively being. And so it just brings me so much joy to watch people go through this in my coaching program, this process of self discovery and self love and boundaries, and getting to a place where they feel comfortable speaking their true to people who they know, aren’t going to love that truth. Because a lot of times it’s really hard or family to hear that your beliefs have shifted and are no longer in alignment with theirs. And so I love to be able to help people feel more comfortable and empowered to be able to show up in the world, feeling comfortable, who they are,

Quianna Marie
wow, that is so powerful. And such a blessing. I mean, I know we’re talking religion, but it is truly a blessing for you to be an advocate for those families, for those individuals that are looking to, to I don’t want to say like break these chain, like in that exact analogy. But to truly find their truth. I just think that is incredible.

Terina
Like, yes, I’m helping people who are going through a religious transition. But it comes back to your own individual self discovery and self love and those boundaries and those things that help you to be who you truly are. A lot of times, going through a religious transition. shift in beliefs is just the catalyst for people to jump into this self discovery journey. And so the religion for me is just this starting point, really, we’re like diving into a journey of self discovery for people.

Quianna Marie
Yes, this can be so inspiring. And, and I want to kind of tap into breaking these cycles and releasing expectations can feel really heavy and scary. It can feel like a burden, right? So like, maybe someone is ready to make some changes ready to speak up. But the weight of it just feels too scary. And it’s just sometimes it’s just easier to just continue, right.

So I would love for you to tap into what this experience feels like when it can actually be freeing. And we like like, just be like this heavy backpack, like off your shoulders. Because I think sometimes a lot of us are I feel like a lot of us are broken up into two camps were either driven by the fear of staying stuck, or were driven by the fear of the unknown, right? So so what what would be your advice for someone that’s like, wait a second, this may be sticky, this may be awkward, this may create a lot of tension. But on the other side is just like this is a whole new world. So can we chat about like the whole new world like what that really looks like to you and what you’re hoping your clients experience?

Terina
So I think that this is such a beautiful question, because it is pretty universal, not only in like a religious transition, but often even when we’re looking at our business like the next step or we’re getting ready to launch something or, you know, like there’s these same kinds of fears and so it can be really helpful to who acknowledge and honor what you’re feeling without judgment?

Because sometimes there can be judgment of, well, I shouldn’t feel this way. Because really, I want to be making this change. I want to be doing this. So why am I feeling this way or, you know, whatever the judgment may be toward yourself. So just honor your feelings and what you’re experiencing, and know that that’s perfect, and normal for you to feel what you’re feeling. And your emotions are just signals trying to guide you. So first, honor where you are.

Second would be maybe take a moment and ask, what is the cost on both sides? What is the cost of staying where you are? Anything you will you be losing? What will you be giving up? What is gained if you stay where you are, what is gained if you make the change and the next step. And sometimes when we look at fear especially, fear of the unknown, without really kind of getting to the root of that, it feels overwhelming, and much scarier than it really needs to be.

So say you’re thinking of having this really hard conversation, or maybe you’re thinking of a we’ll use this one, maybe you’re thinking of sharing something on an online space, or your business for a personal matter, it doesn’t matter, but you’re feeling really, really nervous about that. And you don’t really know why. If you set and just kind of dig into, why am I feeling this way, you might get to the root of I’m afraid of people saying really bad things about me, I’m afraid people are gonna be really mean to me, I’m afraid nobody’s going to care, you know.

Once you get to these specific fears, then you can address them like, okay, so what if some random person on the internet says that I’m a horrible person, and I should just go away and not exist anymore? But does that really matter? Probably not. Because I don’t know them. And they’re probably a really sad person to be saying stuff about that about strangers on the internet. So maybe you can work through the fear around that a little bit like, okay, and so once you take the time to really look at what is the root of this fear, you can move forward a little bit more.

You can even come up with a game plan of how you might respond in a situation if this fear does happen. But I find often that if we look at what is the worst case scenario going to be in relation to this fear, that we’ll find that it’s not really that bad, and that we really are very strong and resilient, and remarkably creative human beings that can come up with solutions.

Quianna Marie
Yes. Oh my gosh, yes, Trina, you are such a wealth of knowledge with lots of experience with this, that, that makes it not feel so scary. When you break it down like that, it actually feels almost like because I’m such a bullet point person. I’m like, wait a second, like, let me make a list, and then cross these out and, and kind of create that unstuck. Drive?

I just think you said that so beautifully. Thank you. Yes. So I would love to know, because now now you got me thinking, I want to ask you like another question. What are some ways that we can create boundaries and create a safe space within ourselves? Because I know a lot of us listening are, you know, we’re business owners, we’re busy moms, we’re, you know, maybe even pivoting going from like a service based business and getting into an on getting into an online space.

That was kind of a tongue twister. But what are some ways like we were talking about some heavy things and you know, making some big life changes for generations? But what about just us in our daily lives? Like, would you like to please share a couple key tips that we can create our own boundaries for ourselves?

Terina
Yes. So I think an important one is, and remember that boundaries is a practice. And it’s a lifelong journey of discovering, developing, embracing, establishing, adjusting. And so when I say this, this is a really, really big one and one that I don’t know that I will ever like, completely master in this lifetime, but it’s something I try hard to do is be kind to ourselves through our mental talk, and kind of try and make that a boundary within yourself that I will speak kindly to myself, I will not speak badly to myself the way that maybe sometimes happens if you have had messages told to you, if you’ve experienced trauma or different things, it’s easy to have this subconscious dialogue that is not hard, not helpful, that is harmful.

I try and when I find those thoughts coming to just remind myself that I’m worthy of love and those thoughts are not loving and kind and so I don’t allow those thoughts the same way that I wouldn’t allow somebody to else to speak to me that way, I try not to speak to myself that way. And so I have a boundary around your mental self talk that you’re going to be kind to yourself and that you’re gonna give yourself grace. That is a really big one.

Self Care with Intention

Another personal boundary that I try and hold really firmly to is a daily act of self care. And I know when I say self care, also, this is kind of a buzz topic, right? Like, oh, we’re gonna go get pedicures and massages.

I have a little bit of a different philosophy around self care.

To me, self care has nothing to do with the care set self care tasks that you choose to do. It has everything to do with the emotion and the intention that you bring to a task in your day. So for many of us, we’re very busy, and our time can be very limited. And the thought of adding in even 15 minutes sometimes can feel overwhelming, that completely goes against the whole purpose of self care. We’re not trying to add one more thing to your to do list, right? Like we’re trying to make ourselves feel loved and cared for and nurtured. So if you’re in a situation where you’re like, Yeah, self care sounds great. But how do I even fit that into my day with my job, and my kids and my side hustle, and trying to be a good partner and a good friend? Where does that go in my life. I’ll give you an example. So in the morning, I like to have tea. Some people like to have coffee, I enjoy my teeth. And if I know that my day is going to be super packed, and I’m not going to have time to do some yoga, or journal or meditate for a few minutes or exercise some of the things that I like to do on a more regular basis, if I have a really busy day, and I know that that’s not going to happen, then I can choose to take an everyday moment, and through my intention and my energy, turn that into my self care.

As I’m preparing my tea, I might start with a thought of, I am going to mindfully, be present and enjoy my tea because I love myself. So I’m going to give myself this moment of pleasure. And I’m going to enjoy the hot tea cup in my hands, I’m going to enjoy the beautiful aroma of my Chai, I’m going to enjoy the flavor. And I’m going to do it with the message and intention that I am taking this moment for myself. Because I am worthy of being present in this moment. And enjoying this, I bring in my senses.

I have not added a single thing to my day, I’m going to drink my cup of chai, regardless of how my day is going. But I’ve taken the moment to be present, and to do it with love for myself. And so when you do that you can bring self care into your very, very busy day.

Quianna Marie
Wow, what a beautiful reminder to turn those everyday tasks and things that you’re doing anyway, right? Like I literally can see you at your kitchen island. And I know it because I’m I’ve been to your home. I can see you standing in your kitchen. And I can just see the kids bustling around getting ready for school, you know, there’s just pure, I call it just chaos, right? Just happening around you. And I could see you rooted in that moment where if you were to just go out your day, right?

I could see you losing your your, your tea, right? Like, oh, is it on the kitchen counter? Oh, is it outside? Or oh, you know that one of the kids grab it like it just it can be so easy to be so distracted and not intentional with that moment. And I love how you mentioned how it could just be our everyday tasks that are backed by that intention by that, that pausing that redirecting that sharing your gratefulness. That’s a beautiful boundary that we can start today, right?

We may not be going to our grandmother’s and telling us that we’re like completely changing our beliefs or some things that can be real heavy. Sometimes it’s just the tiny steps that we need in our daily lives to give us the courage. Give us that gumption and the confidence to have these conversations. And if we can’t even speak kindly to ourselves, how are we supposed to speak kindly to our friends and our families and our partners? Like, oh, Trina, you’re just so amazing.

Terina
Thank you, yes, just like, we build relationships with other people through small moments, through conversations through interactions, we build our relationship with ourselves. So as we’re trying to build ourselves love and be rooted in our self worth. As we’re mindful and intentional with our relationship and interactions with ourself of doing things intentionally to care for ourselves, then we’re going to feel that confidence that we need to be able to have those conversations that are more challenging, and more uncomfortable.

Quianna Marie
Yes. Oh my gosh, well, you’re such a safe space for these conversations. And I don’t want these to end. So how can people find you like how can they work with you? What I love so much about these connection calls is I want everyone that I know to know everyone that I know. I’m surrounded by the best and I’m We’re so grateful to have you here in like my sister circles. So how can people find you? And and, like, how can we work with you? Terina? Yes,

Terina
so my website’s probably the best place to go, it’s Terina maldonado.com. And there’s links to my social media on there, I like to have fun on social media. On my website, you can download, I have a free self care and self care journal that can help you kind of get in the habit of some self care, as well as some journaling prompts to kind of get started on that or if somebody would like to connect with me

For your audience would love to offer a free 15 minute call, so we can discover what your default communication archetype is, and maybe go over what some of the strengths and where some areas of growth can be within that. And so you can, there’s a schedule on my website, you can book and just in the comments mentioned that you heard me on a key on his website, and we can do that, or shoot me an email, we can connect that way. But I would love to connect with anybody in the audience that would like to know, what’s my default communication style?

Quianna Marie
wow, what a gift Terina thank you so much. I feel like you left, like I mentioned before, like a whole bunch of little golden nuggets. And I want to do that I’m signing up, I want to know what my communication archetype is, and, and how, because that’s the thing too, like, I feel like I do have a lot of intuition. I feel like I before even say something, I’m already thinking, how is this going to be perceived? Like you mentioned earlier, like, right, I’ve done some therapy, right? Like, what, what is the outcome that I truly want? So if I say something, right, so the fact that you’re just offering these quick calls to develop those, those communication skills is such a gift. Thank you. Yeah,

Terina
I’m really excited to connect and, and help some people kind of get a little bit more knowledge around their own personal communication.

Quianna Marie
Yes, that’s so beautiful. And okay, so one thing I love to ask every guest, will you love, will you please share with us a key tip, something that as either an entrepreneur, just as a mom, as a business owner, something that you wish you knew sooner?

Terina
So I think, and we’ve kind of touched on it a little bit, but just honoring where you are without judgment is one of the most valuable things, one of the most valuable gifts you can give yourself and in turn, the people within your spirit sphere of influence, when we are trying to improve and grow and hustle and, you know, become our best selves. A lot of times we can bring in judgment, that and when you just love and accept yourself where you are, as you continue to try and grow, that will happen much more quickly. And so I think, just be kind to yourself, and give yourself the same love and grace that you would your very best friend.

Quianna Marie
Amazing. Thank you so much for your time today. Terina. I’m just so grateful for you. I’m grateful that you’re my neighbor. And we’re able to connect so organically because even if we didn’t live close together, I still want to be your best friend, and work with you in some way. Well, thank you so much, and hope you have a beautiful day.

Terina
Thank you. You too.

Quianna Marie
Thank you so much for joining the party today. Your Terina is out there. In fact, she’s probably your neighbor. I suggest you get out there show up to local events. Put yourself in these rooms. Sign up for your local Facebook groups show up for local parties does get yourself out there.

Your Terina is waiting to meet you and your life literally will be impacted for the better when you go find your own Terina thank you so much. Bam. Love you. Okay, bye. That’s a wrap on another episode of Quianna Marie weekly. Thank you so much for your listenership and support. You can find the resources and show notes for this episode and more at quiannamarie.com/podcast. I’d be honored if you show your support by leaving a review and rating on your favorite podcast app. Until next time, keep on dancing